Dose my male coworker like me or am I looking at him through Rose colored glasses?

[lucyvoid]

He's a relatively shy timid man. But I tend to talk to him a lot frankly just because I like him. And value his commentary.

He has played video games with me on his lunch break ( was my idea) and has sat next to me at break sometimes. He like reaches up behind me to grab stuff if he thinks I'm doing something risky getting something off the top shelf.

Or the other day he stayed with me while I cleaned up a spill he didn't need to be there and there wasn't anything he could do to help but he stayed anyway.

I told him once I thought his nervous tick was adorable ( he does a twitchy smile)

He tried to meet my gaze and said " you mean like to see my lip quiver?" And pointed to his lip ware he was actively doing his nervous tick.

He also misunderstood me and thought I asked him to my house to play video games and I think he was going to agree but his voice cracked for a second him and I corrected the statement before he could agree or not.

He comes and finds me for break and he's always closer than I think he is.

But I don't know maybe he's just being nice or something and I'm reading in to it to much.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

As for matters of heart anything is certainly possible & time will tell & in time I’m sure you will know. As for love it’s possible it’s in the air & it is also possible a friendship is starting to develop as well. As for a friendship it can always turn into a relationship if two hearts open up to each other & let things simply happen.

Ask your male coworker directly & face to face if you really want to know.

[lucyvoid]

I would if I could but I've always been bad with emotions and fumble up bad

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Practice makes perfect & as for you it’s time for you to step out of your comfort zone & find out the answer you are seeking. On the flip side if you think he likes you & you don’t like him back that way don’t lead the poor guy on.

[lucyvoid]

I do like him that way is the problem. I actually very stupidly gave him flowers the other day.

[Danny_dan92]

Word of advice. Do not combine romantic relationships and work

[lucyvoid]

I doubt he would make it a problem if we broke up or something but even if he did I could just move to overnights

[lucyvoid]

Not like I meet anyone outside of work anyway

[Danny_dan92]

It’s one thing to assume.

Reality is another

[Danny_dan92]

You cannot truly “doubt” or “know” how things will be if in the event things end. In fact in most cases shit gets awkward

[lucyvoid]

Like I said I can just move to overnights or transfer to the store a town over I'm not really worried about that. but I really enjoy his company and he's so sweet. Besides it's not like I'm going to be meeting anyone else outside of work

[Danny_dan92]

Don’t be disappointed if things go bad.

[lucyvoid]

I mean if he doesn't like me he doesn't like me and I'll just drop it and go back to my books.

[Danny_dan92]

Sounds good

[lucyvoid]

I know everyone says not to date anyone at work but I don't know Ware people are meeting anyone else I know I here like hobbies or something but all of my hobbies don't happen around other people and I don't drink or party

[Danny_dan92]

Guess you’re a hopeless romantic…

There is a thing like dating apps. But to each their own

[lucyvoid]

I have never tried to use a dating app I have only been with one man and was with him for 8 years I knew him for 11 years

[Danny_dan92]

You don’t have much life experience. Tbh with you… you seem too inexperienced and naive when it comes to dating. And it’s expected because as you said. You’ve only been in one relationship.

[lucyvoid]

As far as life it's self gose I have to much experience but like loving relationships or dating non existent experience.

[Danny_dan92]

Correct.

[lucyvoid]

Oh well what do I need another person for anyway

[Danny_dan92]

Obviously you want a boyfriend for the same reason every other girl does. For sex and for the prospects of potentially getting married and starting a family

[lucyvoid]

I don't want to have children. I should rephrase that I won't have children and probably can't anyway. I'm not really worried about being married. I'm not saying that I don't crave the companionship just that I shouldn't waste my time hoping or looking for something that isn't going to happen for me

[Danny_dan92]

Yeah

[HollyK21]

If you’re conventionally attractive, single and straight then there’s of course the chance he likes you. However, you guys work pretty closely, maybe that’s a line he’s reluctant to cross if he were interested. Something physical could happen, especially inviting him over to your house, but I don't know if much would happen behind that.

[EmmaMary]

For fuck's sake... Just ask/beg him to give you a damn good fucking... Simples!

[lucyvoid]

I'm not doing that

[EmmaMary]

Why not? You would at least know one or the other.

[lucyvoid]

Because 1 I work with him two I don't want him think I just sleep with anyone interested 3 I don't have the nerve for that 4. If he did like me he wouldn't anymore I don't think he'd be able to respond to it

[EmmaMary]

Well in that case you're never going to know then, are you?

By the way, is this the same guy that you've asked numerous times about over the past month or so... Or just one of many?

[EmmaMary]

Thank you for the MHO.

[bowenw]

It sounds like he is into you. See if he wants to do anything with you outside of work, but first be sure your employer doesn't have rules against that kind of thing.

[Still-alive]

i mean maybe? only real way to know for sure is to ask him out.

[lucyvoid]

I was going to see if he wants to play video games with me at my house and see what he says he's hard to read

[Still-alive]

yeah try it out if you feel that comfortable having him at your place

[lucyvoid]

I mean I wouldn't feel in danger or anything

[Still-alive]

ok so go for it