Has my crush come to know that I use to like him?

[Anonymous]

It sounds silly but yes. I had a casual crush on a coworker at the beginning of my work in May. He was smart, talked well and these traits attracted me. It was nothing serious and slowly I got over it. However, recently I have started noticing that his behavior towards me is changing. He talks to me a lot these day (strikes up conversations whenever we meet each other), looks at me a lot whenever another girl is beside him (probably to see how I'm reacting) and sometimes is very nice towards me (we had a group project with lots of work and since I already had a lot in my plate, he asked in the group if he could take some of my responsibilities). While this is nice, I have a fear that he knows that I liked him and doing all these things to confirm that. What if he makes fun of me now? I am unlikable so he definitely isn't treating me differently than others because he likes me. Does it seem like he knows?

[spartan55]

Omg girl you are not mature enough to be dating..

[Asker]

I never said that I want to date.

[spartan55]

Then what is the point of your post? Gossip

[Asker]

Nah. I'm just trying to understand whether he knows that I like him. Then I'll have to more mindful. I don't want him to make fun of me or think that I'm desperate.

[spartan55]

Why would he think you are desperate? Do girls still believe in that myth? Ugh...

[Asker]

I'm not the type of girl men like. Saying this as nicely as possible, I was never in my life approached by any man. I did somehow end up having a long-distance relationship but he treated me terribly. And it's not on my personality, I'm just an ordinary girl with social awkwardness. I think it's because I'm not that beautiful or something. So yes, people like me aren't supposed to like anyone, they can totally consider it desperation.

[spartan55]

That doesn't make sense at all.

[Asker]

It does. And this guy is talking to me more and more every freaking day and his eyes are getting lit up and all while talking. If I don't notice him, he'll make sure that I do notice him. He definitely knows.

[spartan55]

You have this whole story made up in your head that doesn't fit reality.

[Asker]

Lol no. It's not a made up story. Things progressed more weirdly after I made this post. If I made up a story I'd have been more creative. It's real life so very haphazard. I'm still trying to find an answer of my question.

[spartan55]

Your question being how does he know you USED to like him... 😂 😂 😂

[Asker]

I didn't ask 'how'. I was asking people if they think he knows it by analyzing his behavior because I can't ask him. People may share their opinions from their personal experience. If they don't have anything to share, they can ignore, right? I don't know why you're getting triggered.

[spartan55]

Wth are you talking about 'triggered'? uh... no?
You can ask him, you are just choosing to be all weird about it and are trying to play private investigator instead.
So, let me ask this: if he knew you liked him then why didn't he: act on it back then, say something, anything? Instead, he waits until months later and is 'acting different' so that means he knows you used to like him. The mental gymnastics are incredible.

[In_Trance]

Did you actually tell him?

[Asker]

No, and I don't intend to. Crushes aren't serious, you don't have feelings for them. I rather think that it's prompted by a simple admiration for the qualities they have. So that's why I feel awkward thinking what if he has found it out.

[In_Trance]

Then he doesn't know

[Anonymous]

I think he expects a confession

[Asker]

Yes, that's my fear.

[Opinion Owner]

It’s just casual so leave it