Why would his voice change from feminine to masculine?

[Anonymous]

Is this weird but how is it possible that this guy had a very feminine voice at work and then it ended becoming masculine? Like we thought he was gay!! He was talking fem … is it because there’s some one at work he’s attracted to or he’s around ladies?

This is a phenomenon to me..

[Anonymous]

This shift in voice from sounding feminine to masculine in an adult male is most likely due to a change in vocal production and habitual pitch, not a physiological or hormonal change. While it's common to associate a higher-pitched, softer voice with being gay, this is a stereotype, and vocal tone doesn't determine sexuality. The initial "feminine" quality could have been a learned behavior or a habitual vocal pattern related to his environment, stress levels, or a desire to sound less intimidating. The change to a "masculine" voice which typically means a lower pitch and perhaps a greater projection could occur if he consciously or unconsciously started speaking with his true, lower-pitched chest voice, perhaps because he felt more comfortable, confident, or was trying to project authority in the workplace. Factors like being around people he's attracted to or a change in his professional role could influence his vocal performance as he adapts his communication style to his perception of the environment.

[Finchie40]

It sounds like he talks that way around females’ at work like you stated , I noticed a lot of guys’ do this when they are around girls’ they like, most guys’ don’t even realize they are doing it. It’s funny , I bust my friends’ balls when they do it , when their girlfriend calls him while he is out with the boys’ he will talk all masculine to us , but when his girlfriend calls , His voice changes immediately to her and says Hi baby , I miss you , like who the fuck is this guy , and of course we call him gay lol

[Asker]

No it’s the other way around

[HollyK21]

Stop trying to turn him into a gay man Chels. You’re trying to make fetch happen at this point, it’s not going to happen.

[BriamG22]

Is there lore behind this post? Haha

[Asker]

I think he likes my coworker but I was just curious

[HollyK21]

@briamg22 tons of lore but it’s a long story lol

[HollyK21]

Chels he may like the female coworker but why does that matter? You said you weren’t trying to date him anyway.

[BriamG22]

@HollyK21 a story for another day 😶‍🌫️

[HollyK21]

It’s so long it would have to be lol like I’ve known this woman for 2 years this November, it’s been going on since 2023.

[Asker]

I just feel rejected… and she’s not even all that.. I had to distance myself from her and my other coworker.

[BriamG22]

A will they won't they that's been going on for 2 years? I commend your loyalty and devotion to the cause!

[HollyK21]

Chels, you are the one centering appearances, I don't know why you think that’s the biggest focal point for every man but it’s not. Sure I’d put that on either young men (teen or college years) or older men (who are usually divorced or have had a lot of experiences with women). The average guy of course wants a woman he’s physically and visually attracted to but she doesn’t have to be all that, looks fade. You want excess amounts of surgery to fix what you’re struggling with inside. It doesn’t work like that babe.

[HollyK21]

@briamg22 from a male perspective, do you value looks more than general compatibility? Like of course you want a woman that you feel physically attracted to but what value is most important?

[BriamG22]

@HollyK21 I'd put personality first and foremost probably. But like you said, I would like to be at least attracted to her physically. But if you put a model that has a personality of a wet paper bag and another girl whom is average but I can get along with really well, I'd probably pick the latter.

But then again, I'm just one guy, based on some posts I've seen here it would seem other guys might not agree haha.

[HollyK21]

@briamg22 very well said, this is exactly the sort of input that Chels need to hear. For as long as I’ve known her she’s struggled a lot with how she views herself and all the surgery she thinks she needs for men to want her. Looks aren’t everything, but I think hearing that from a guy would mean a lot more than from a woman. She should re-read your comment in doubtful moments tbh.

[Asker]

Whatever Holly. He can have perfect rainbow. I’ll get the attention of many men

[BriamG22]

Aww noo... Chels, if its any consolation, everybody struggles with truly loving themselves, but you should not constantly focus and nitpick your flaws. Find things about yourself that you love. Maybe your eyes, your hair, your nails, remind yourself that they're beautiful, little by little you'll grow to love every aspect of yourself.

I had severe self esteem issues in the past but I would keep telling myself that I looked great. I'd dress up, do up my hair etc. The self-esteem issue even extended to the more private affairs but I won't get into that... What I want to say is that if I could overcome it I'm sure you can too!!

I don't wish to denigrate plastic surgery, there's enough stigma around it as it is. If it helps a person love themselves more, that's awesome. But I'd just like to say that you were made the way you were through your mom and dad. That's their beauty you carry and you're perfect as you are.

I know a lot of guys seem to prioritise looks, but you're not even a fraction of all men on websites such as these. There are plenty of fish in the water haha. Just gotta go fishing!

[BriamG22]

Ughh sorry I yapped too much. Just ignore it pls lol.

[HollyK21]

@briamg22 your take was so sincere as a man that she’d probably roll her eyes at it because she’s convinced herself that every man is toxic and shallow if they don’t like her. I’d say it’s silly that despite hearing from a man that looks aren’t everything she’d still dispute it but hey, that’s like 27+ years of mental health issues coming into play. There is zero evidence that this man is gay, just as there was with the original man she came into this site obsessing about. Instead she weaves these ideas in her mind that because he isn’t trying to get close to her he’s gay. She will go to extensive lengths to make these false accusations true. Have you ever seen baby reindeer? This is that. And she will cuss me out for it but it’s true.

[Asker]

Again WHATEVER YOU SAY HOLLY!

[HollyK21]

It’s not whatever I say Chels. You’re being that way because you don’t wanna hear the truth, this behavior is problematic.

[HollyK21]

Like I don’t see all of your posts and I feel confident saying that I’ve missed several, but are you not still posting about this weekly? I’m sure you are.

[Asker]

What behavior? I distanced myself from her and him! I can be an attention slut if I want.

[BriamG22]

Thanks for taking your time to read my rambling nonsense hahaha 🤣🤣. But wow based on what you said this seems much more problematic and deep rooted than I thought... So are you two considered friends?

Ultimately though, OP, if you can't even love yourself, how can you expect someone else to love you? (Sorry for being blunt) The person who should be head over heels for you, totally in love and infatuated with you, is You. Find qualities about yourself that you love and remind yourself constantly how beautiful that quality of yours is.

[BriamG22]

@HollyK21 dropped you a follow by the way!

[Asker]

@BriamG22 shut up. I bet you get no bitches. I got this. If I want my ass and tits done then I will do it because I value attention over love

[HollyK21]

You don’t “got this” though because if you did you’d be getting the help you need. Have you even found another therapist since the one you ghosted? Probably not.

[HollyK21]

You don’t value attention over love, no one does. You have serious self esteem issues.

[HollyK21]

@briamg22 she doesn’t mean that.

[Asker]

I don’t have self esteem issues I’m just like my mother lol… and no. I stopped taking my meds

[BriamG22]

Haha, I know, I'm pretty thick skinned anyway 😅, kinda my fault too, perhaps said too much.

[HollyK21]

Chels you have severe mental health issues. You’ve been professionally diagnosed unless you were lying about all that. In which case I wouldn’t see the point. You need your meds, you need mental help. Stop denying it.

[HollyK21]

@briamg22 lol you didn’t say too much, she just doesn’t wanna hear that unfortunately.

[HollyK21]

You’re saying you’re just like your mom out of spite, you don’t even live with her anymore. She defends you but you’ve gone a lot of damage girl.

[RavVid]

It seems to me quite a few US democrat men seem to raise the pitch of their voice and democrat women appear to lower their pitch.

I just assume they are seeking to be gender neutral.

Maybe your guy started out trying to be gender neutral than gave up.