Is there anyway I can talk to him without being creepy?

[Anonymous]

The last thing i wanna do is give off Joe Goldberg from You. There’s these cute boys who always play tennis in the court at my campus, I never had the chance to talk to this one boy because he’s always in the middle of a match. I wanted to get to know him so I pulled him up on the tennis roster from our school. I found his insta from that, I’m hesitant on following it because I already feel like a stalker already. I was debating on doing that or going to one of their games? Which is the less creepiest thing to do?

[BadApple69]

Go to a tennis game and watch his game. When he is done congratulate him on the win or say something like… better luck next time. Do you play tennis?
If you do say you play but you like to watch to better your technique. If you don’t play say you don’t play but you want to learn by watching. These will give him the opportunity to offer his help.
If he doesn’t offer, ask if he minds you stopping by once in a while to watch him play. At that point you could tell him your name and ask him what his name is (I know you know already).


That’s how I would do it.

[Asker]

i might have to look up some tennis terms, because i never played 😭😭😭 only seen the movie challengers if that counts

[BadApple69]

Maybe knowing nothing is better. Gives you more to talk about.

[Anonymous]

I’m glad you’re experiencing what men have to go through when it comes to trying to meet women. Women will call men being “creepy” when he’s really not. He’s just at one of his vulnerable moments in his life w no experience in most cases so it comes off as “creepy” to women. But the problem is women never usually approach men so they don’t experience what you’re experiencing, this feeling of not coming off creepy. I’m sure you’re not creepy. I’m sure you’re a nice person. Just don’t have that experience. Now in answer to your question I’d say go to his game. At least if you get a chance to talk to him you can talk about his game. Most times men aren’t going to see women as “creepy” when she approaches him the way a lot of women see men when we approach them. But I’d go to the game. If you play maybe you can ask for some tips. That’ll give him more of a reason to talk to you, you to him.

[Asker]

saying you’re glad someone is experiencing that is kinda crazy, ironically this always happens. i always made a move on guys i liked. i given every guy i talked to romantically flowers and gifts, but never got one in return. not saying that makes it better because nobody should be seen as creepy just from showing interest. both guy and girl. but we definitely need to stop assuming that only one gender goes through that. oooo okok i’ll try to see if i could do after the game, if he’s in a good mood 😭

[Opinion Owner]

Ok then if you’ve done this numerous times then there should be no need to ask this question really. At least that’s what I think. Your question sounds as though you’ve never approached men before. I think it’s better to talk to him though. People are just caught off guard when random strangers request to friend them online. Unless he’s got a big following then it won’t be as awkward.

[jahaims]

I would find it cute not creepy if I got message saying something like hey, I see you playing tennis all the time and thought you were cute so I looked you up. Do you want to meet up sometime to get to know each other. You can show interest without coming off like a creep. It's pretty hard to come off like a creep as a female especially if you aren't ugly.

[Asker]

okay i might try this, i hope you’re right 😭😭

[Staximus]

Try talking to this guy first instead of acting like a stalker and showing up to some guy's tennis match who you don't even fucking know. Never mind stupid Instagram, you're just going to look like a stalker again. Have a conversation in real life.

[Asker]

the only way i could talk to him is through text though, i physically can’t talk to him because he’s always in the middle of serious practice since they play for the school. they also practice for hours.

[Staximus]

You need to meet this guy in person before you show up to his tennis matches or message him on Instagram or else you're just going to look like a crazy stalker.

[Alex-Snow]

You are not being weird. Try IG or maybe find an excuse to talk to him. U are not being creepy at all. The guy does not know how lucky he is but you prob have to make the first couple of moves. How old is he?

[Asker]

which sucks because i always the first move on guys 😭 he’s 20, in 21. but yeah imma send him the textttt AHH

[Alex-Snow]

Go for it.. have fun