What’s does he want?

[Anonymous]

Hooked up with a man while I was on vacation with some friends. This all happened a few months ago, he’ll randomly call and check up on me which I find weird. He recently called me while I was on my birthday trip in Miami, started questioning me asking me if I have a man paying for my room and my expenses out there. Telling me that I had to have someone paying for my way out there, due to the fact that I was out there for a few weeks. Asking me if it’s a rapper or ball player. Then covered it up and said he was just playing and that he doesn’t care. He’s not consistent so I’m not sure why he even stays in touch and checks up on me; it was one night, it’s was good but still one night;

My page is private and we don’t follow each other on social media. The minute I decide to make my page public he’ll admittedly view my posts and tries to call me? I’m not sure if he has my notifications on? Or if he notices that my page is public from our previous DMs ….. this always happens.

He admitted to having feelings for me after we hooked up, yet I don’t believe it because actions > words. Anyways I think I should block him because I think it’s creepy and unserious…

Do men really have time to and the brain cells to try to play with women out of state?

[D_Bone_Steak]

This is sad. He wants to be with you but you're not interested in him. You basically let him fuck and now you're just like, "why doesn't he treat me like a disposable slut like the rest of the guys." Reall cool... you'll wish you had him by your side when you're around age 40, but he'll be gone by then.

[Asker]

He’s inconsistent. I called him last week and it took him a whole week to call me back and that’s only because I made my page public? I’m not sure if he ever received my call or not. When I was in Miami recently when he was questioning me, before he got off the phone he told me to text him while I was out. I asked him what do I text him and he said just anything, make sure you do. He knew that I was going out clubbing so it felt like a controlling thing. I never followed through so I’m not sure if he’s upset about that. Today he went and viewed a picture of me that I posted on social media and he hearted it? We don’t even follow each other so he’s manually typing up my name every day.

The night we had a few months ago was intense he told me he’s never had a night like that ever before. Neither have I, yet I need consistency and someone who is emotionally available and I don’t think that’s him.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah I get it. You like him, but he just failed to do one thing. If just this other thing happened... dat dadda dadda and so on. Gotta keep clubbing which is code for get other penis and of course it felt controlling if he was trying to be your penis of choice.

It's a relationship that's never going to happen, because you need to have fun. Eventually something will happen like a child or the wall and then you'll want nothing but serious and stop offering the fun. That's when you'd equally chase him and that one thing or if just another thing happened wouldn't matter because instead of controlling feeling, it would be exactly what you want. By then though, he's going to move on. it's a relationship that will never happen because your priority is the party phase.

So yeah I get it... it's just sad. So all these other penises going to make you happy? How long is this nothing but fun party phase going to last... age 30 to 40? There is a ton of aged women that took your course of action you're taking right now... you see them too right? They're all out there asking "where have all the good men gone?" or they blame men for not wanting them no more now that they're all blown out and aged. That's gonna be you... if nothing changes... you will join them eventually.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Bro is pussy whipped, he's gotta snap out of it, miami is full of tourism so I can only assume it's maybe his first time or you were the only one to pay any attention to him.