Girls, if a guy is cocky and/or egotistical, does that turn you ON or does it turn you OFF?

[sage2021]

Personally, I can't stand guys that puff up their own ego. I get immediately turned off by guys that act like that.👎🏼

[boundless]

They're all full of shit... Cocky just means "too confident". So it's a measure of expectations and it is all relative. If the guys they dated before where not all that impressive, then that is their measuring stick to measure the next guy. If the next guy is much more capable, they will assume he is cocky because the last guy they were with was less capable, so the assume the new guy can't do what he claims. Women have a habit of underestimating men. So they will think the new guy that is more capable is overstating his position and is "too confident" in himself, even though he very well might be able to back up everything his says and to him that's just normal stuff and no big deal. The bottom line is that women don't want to feel inferior, even if the guy is way better than her at a lot of things they want to be lied to. That's why you have to get in where you fit in. If they have low self esteem and they expect a guy to be a loser and not be able to do a lot of things to be comfortable, then just move on from them and find someone that is comfortable with what you are and what you are capable of. Not everyone is going to be a great fit for every woman.

[boundless]

**they
*every guy

[sage2021]

@boundless

It's not like a competition against each other.
I'm only talking about the guy here.
You should have stopped at "Cocky is just too confident" because that's a great description!

[boundless]

In a man's mind it's not a competition, he is just being himself doing his thing, but women do compare men to other men. That's were the relative comparison comes in. In order to be "too" anything, there has to be a normal baseline of comparison. Like I said, women get this from the men they have been with before, and also from their father if he was around. What ever male role models have filled said rolls in her life will be her baseline of experience. So, you're the one that makes it a "competition" because you're claiming they are cocky which is "too" confident. It has nothing to do with his behavior and everything to do with your judgement of his level of confidence based on your experience. You are comparing men to one another.

[boundless]

"too" indicates excessiveness or comparison relative to a standard or expectation. That's what it means. So to call someone cocky is to admit that you are comparing them to other men. Thus you created the "competition" in your own head.

[fishcake_buttie]

Men who puff up their ego's never developed true confidence and have to put on an act and you ladies can see through it and find it repulsive at its extreme because they are lying, to you and to themselves.

The behaviour is why I struggle to get along with many men like that, a bit of banter can turn into a fist fight because their ego's couldn't take it, even though they like to dish it out and then call you a pussy if you sigh and walk away.

I know you directed your question at the girls, but what does your head in about guys is why I don't have many male friends and for the same reasons.

[FreyaRed]

Arrogance, hubris this turns me off. Egoism is for me just a self preservation strategy, neither positive or negative.
Men have borderlines and bipolar disorder either, I just think sometimes when I see those cocky guys in nightclubs what for depression must they have when they recognize that they are just hopeless clowns.

[Noredcarpet]

I separate true confidence from cockyness. There is I think nothing that turns me off as much as cokyness. To me it is a sign they are stupid. Everyone else knows it but they are still too stupid to see it themselves. It may have worked when they were 12, but after that it is a no brainer

[Bitter_Sweet94]

A little confidence? Attractive.

But cocky and egotistical? That’s an instant turn off.

There’s a fine line between self-assured and full of yourself.

Confidence makes a guy magnetic, you can feel it without him needing to brag.

But ego drains the room.

It makes everything feel like a competition instead of a connection.

What actually turns me on is

* quiet confidence

* emotional stability

* a guy who knows his worth without needing to prove it

* someone who treats people well, not like they’re beneath him

Cocky guys might get attention, but grounded men keep it.

And honestly, that’s way more attractive.

[Anonymous]

Egoism is always a big turn off.

When it comes to being cocky, it depends what way. If they are rude about it, it turns me off. Some guys have reason to be a little cocky (the intelligent types) and it adds to their charm in a sense. I like self-assured men, whose confidence he has earned.

Teasing them about it is also fun cause they are usually self-aware!

[dislikesmath]

Not a girl but I'm surprised to have learned this I used to be cocky sometimes, my ego was kinda high I'm glad I forced myself to change and humble myself down. i see it in people I don't like it either.

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Big turn off. Now I understand why Belle chose the beast over the cocky guy, Gaston. 🥱😆

[McLlovin]

Intellectually women will say no its a turn off, but in practice they are ditching the nice guy for the egotistical one. Because confidence is sexy.. i dont care who you are. Women do this because of instinct, they like confident men. Even though he’s toxic, and they say where have all the good men gone.. im not talking about all women im talking about the majority. It is what it is.

[sage2021]

@McLlovin

I believe that a guy can be a confident nice guy and that's very alluring to me.

[beenherebefore]

It immediately puts me off. I’m okay with a Man being confident that’s actually really attractive but I can’t stand when they act cocky that’s really cringe to me.

[RingOfFire]

A lot of women say it's a turn-ON when a guy is highly confident but a turn-OFF when he is "cocky" (hee hee funny choice of terms).

Can they give examples of a situation that demonstrates the difference, one behavior being confident and another being cocky?

[sage2021]

@RingOfFire
My personal opinion for example is a firemalan 🚒 🔥 and doctor must be confident in their life or death decision making because people could die.
A cocky guy is all about himself. He thinks his 💩 doesn't stink but everyone else's does.
He brags about himself and puffs himself up to make him look good around people, when in real life, he's just full of 💩!!

[RingOfFire]

Hmmmm... I bet if he looked good enough that you would call "cocky" confident! 😁

[sage2021]

@RingOfFire
It's usually the good looking guy who are cocky!

[RingOfFire]

Yeah, but all the girls around don't seem to care! 😉

[sage2021]

@RingOfFire

Sure... they like looking at him, it's when he starts opening his mouth and is where the turn off happens.

[ShivversQuietly]

Turns me right off, how is it supposed to be attractive?

[douride2]

I really dislike both of those things in a guy.

[worldscolide]

Cocky Egotistical guys are closeted Narcissists, I can't stand them personally, and i dont know why women would go for that type.

[Zack-Bann]

Funny enough guys like that always have a woman or 10 in their lives


They’re such a turn off
And yet…




Saying no when asked is easy


Actually turning the douch down, not so much

[pinkmochi]

Playful cockyness is fine to me, but straight up egoistical is a huge turn off.

[ariadneR]

I used to hate it, but it just means that they're confident.

My man is confident. He's sure of himself and it's one of the things I love about him. I

[RandomGirl42]

In real life it is a big turn off and I only say real life 'cuz I had a teenybopper crush on Han Solo 'cuz he was so cocky. 🤣

[meetkitty123]

complete turn off’

[snermcger]

That's like askin a woman if she hates too much oxygen. No such thing. They l-o-v-e confidence. They live for it. It's the main selectivity characteristic for breeding.

[sage2021]

@snermcger

I didn't ask about being confident 😕 I said Cocky!!

[snermcger]

Same difference. Both are equally attractive to females.

[sage2021]

@snermcger
Have you read the other opinions on this question? They aren't the same thing.

[snermcger]

You must be a chick.

[sage2021]

@snermcger
Gee... you're so observant!

[snermcger]

Thanks. It's a skill I have developed. I'm pretty good at it. I'm pretty good at a lot of things though.

[Ironco]

There is a time and place for it, you just have to be good at reading the room.

[bettyboop4123]

it's a major turn off and really shows how insecure he is behind the scenes.

[NervousIndividual]

I feel like we should all strive to have humility

[4ngelic]

If it's slight (key word slight), it's kinda sexy (provided it's somewhat substantiated)

[Anonymous]

Unfortunately - most girls I know are turned on by cocky/egotistical guys.

Considering I'm not one of them, I never had any luck with girls.

[Sal_Monella]

What if it's true? No doubt George Patton was full of himself.

[RxR0954]

that’s a major turn off

[LisaMariexoxo]

Definitely a turn off for me

[Anonymous]

Men are power and women are beauty but we tend to expect opposite when we are not working enough. You can’t expect men to be beauty and cover you up and women to be muscle to cover men up

[Unycorn]

Off off off

[Sunshinelips]

HUGGEEEEEE turn OFF

[Anonymous]

Off off

[Anonymous]

Off.

[Bloodparadise]

That's a turn on.

[JesseP1nk]

Noone likes cocky/egotistical person :)

[khyalove16]

It turns me off

[malaika12312]

every guy