What makes a guy be so obsessed with the idea of you?

[Anonymous]

I don’t understand thst? Nothing happened but a guy stuck on the what if and idea of a woman but not the reality of who she really is.. especially a woman who isn’t all that special

what does it mean

[RxR0954]

It probably means he need to go to therapy so he won’t end up idealizing people that he doesn’t know and get stuck on it

[Anonymous]

Trust me, he probably doesn't understand completely either. Who says this girl isn't special? He obviously views her as such.

[Opinion Owner]

If you even have 1% interest in this guy, it might be worth it to talk to him.

[Asker]

He’s married now with a child… I tried reaching out to thank him for his kindness in the past..

We were teens.. I was able quiet nobody lol and he was very kind to me… he complimented me, he listened to me when no else was listening to me talk, I think he had his sister talk to me while I was by myself and his mom reached out to my mom to do carpooling I don't know how that happened… he just did a lot of nice gestures and it meant a lot because I never had that

He was like the first handsome guy who was nice to me… and he’s a awesome dad and husband and has a family

He’s really matured etc and I admired from afar but I’ll did reach out and congratulated him and he left me on read 😌

[Opinion Owner]

Cool story. Good for him for moving along. Not all of us are that lucky.

[Asker]

How is he lucky?

[Opinion Owner]

He was able to get over you. I've been obsessed with the same girl for years. If I could terminate those feelings, I would. Not due to me being so into her, but I apparently can't get a chance with her.

[jahaims]

He has an unrealistic perception of her based on unmet needs the brain tries to get met.