Guys, why do you approach women with only sex appeal and wonder why we didn't like you?

[Koochie_n420]

Guys are only approaching women from a sexualized stance.
We can feel it even when a guy doesn't speak.
Why do guys feel their sex appeal is good enough to make us want them?

There is no logic in it and you act like your so clever and smart.

[RespectfulGuy]

Oh grouchy,

I think your definite of "sex appeal" is quite narrow - to have bedroom intimacy only.

In my definition, "sex appeal" is

1) a self-sufficient person (guy or girl) who is confident (not arrogant) and modest.

2) broad in knowledge, hence able to converse anything under the sun from technology (not just gaming but green energy, astrology not astronomy, etc) to agriculture to cooking and baking.

3) fun to be with because the person is conversational, modest and non-manipulative.

4) and any person with sex appeal IS smart, not act smart. You can tell from the first 10-minute conversation. The first thousand-word spoken exults, elevates and appeals to the hearts of acquaintances through empathy and kindness.

To conclude, a person with sex appeal permeates the aura of attraction without even the need to become sexual nor use profanity. It's the people around that after being attracted, got aroused to want to near that person and to desire further intimacy after knowing the person better.

That's sex appeal. The real sex appeal.

[MrOracle]

There's very few men who can do this successfully - they're the top 1% on the attractiveness scale (as rated by women collectively). Sure, you sometimes get a few guys lower on the scale who try anyway, and they mostly crash and burn, but because they are so confident, it does work occasionally (i. e., they get casual sex that way), and that's all they care about - that it occasionally works. They're fully aware that it's a numbers game, and maybe they have to approach, on average, 20 women (or 40, or 100) to get a "yes". Those men accept that as the cost of doing business, and they frankly don't care what the "no" girls think - only the "yes" girls matter to them.

Another thing you may not realize is that, for guys who are in the top 1% on the attraction scale, it does work most of the time. I know this from personal second-hand experience - having been friends with 2 different guys who met that level of attractiveness. One guy was just Hollywood handsome (he looked like the guy that Beverly Hills 90210 might have cast to play a surfer boy), and the other was the lead singer in a regionally famous rock band.

These guys banged EVERY girl, and all of those girls knew full well that they had huge body counts, and that it was only going to be casual sex, and that the guy wouldn't remember their name a week later, and they slept with these guys anyway. Women hate to admit it, but if the guy is handsome/popular/high status, all of their rules and standards go right out the window, and nearly all girls (with very few exceptions) will give it up for those guys.

[uzumymw]

I think the guys who try to solely use their sex appeal, do it because they don't have anything else to offer. Often they don't even have that to offer either, but hope they can fake it long enough to get some

[Anonymous]

There’s no logic in it to you cause you’re not a man. Stop thinking men should think or act or respond the way women do.