Am I in love or is it just lust?

[Anonymous]

So I started to talk with a guy a few months back and he turns me on a lot but it’s past that. I like the way we tease each other and he likes my defying comebacks. Once out of the blue he blocked me but he added me again a few days ago on my birthday and we started chatting again. I don’t seem to find anybody to have the same connection and vibe that I have with him but I really don’t want to be attached to a guy. We both have our jobs so we don’t speak all the time but when we do I enjoy it very much and I miss that message from him when he doesn’t talk to me. We have never seen each other in person because we live in different countries.
I currently don’t have frequent sex so maybe I’m just eager for his touch and it’s just lust?

[MontBlanc]

It sounds like it’s a mix strong attraction plus emotional chemistry.

Lust is mainly physical desire.

What you’re describing also includes missing his messages, enjoying the banter, feeling a unique connection, and not finding the same vibe with others. That leans beyond just physical.

But love usually requires consistency, safety, and real life integration and he did block you once, which matters.

It may not be full love yet.
It sounds more like emotional attachment + sexual tension + the excitement of distance.

The real question isn’t “love or lust?”
It’s: does his behavior feel stable enough for your heart?

[Alex-Snow]

Maybe try some video chat and see if it gets sexy?

[Asker]

It already got sexy

[Alex-Snow]

Have you watched each other masturbate? it is fun try it if you have not done it yet