Should I try to fix this coworker friendship after our fallout?

[Anonymous]

I speak to his friend quite often and he mentioned about him saying he be saying we don’t talk anymore like we used to and his been giving me space than he added when he comes back you should talk to him and gain the friendship back by the way I don’t approach man first with conversation wise so why would he except me to converse with him first anyways this silence been going for a while after what happened I’m already getting used to it should I just let it go?

[beenherebefore]

You know is normal for people to evolve and outgrow friendships. I'm going through exactly the same with my friend. We've known each other for ten years and used to be really close to each other, travelled together, used to hang out at each other 's houses all the time bla bla bla. My life changed a lot the past three years and I feel that we no longer have that much in common. I tried to make the effort to rekindle the friendship but it feels forced on my side. I decided that I deeply value their friendship and all the experiences we shared but at the moment I can no longer be present in the friendship as I used to be. No hard feelings.

[HollyK21]

Do what you want, he just gave an opinion, you don’t have to follow it. If you’re fine with how things are then leave it as is.

[Asker]

I’m not but there isn’t much I can do

[HollyK21]

Well, if he’s not worried about fixing anything then I wouldn’t concern myself with it either. At the end of the day you’re there to work. If you happen to make friends or whatever, then of course that’s cool. But you aren’t the specifically for that, so you shouldn’t worry about maintaining friendships. Just like you shouldn’t worry what your female friend has to say about you and the guy who doesn’t speak English.

[Asker]

Omg yea looks like his not worried about fixing it just doesn’t make sense why he would tell his friend I don’t speak to him anymore he clearly don’t to a point where he don’t even say hi to me anymore

[HollyK21]

I think you’re reading into it a bit too much. Be honest — have you never spoken about one coworker to another? I’m sure you have. It’s very casual it isn’t always meant to relay any issue. If you guys don’t talk anymore then that’s just the plain truth, not gossip.

[Alex-Snow]

What do you think caused the fallout? Is this co worker a male or female and near ur age?

[Asker]

Maleee

[spartan55]

Is there a reason you won't talk to him first?

[Asker]

After what happened he stopped speaking bc I was mad and now he don’t speak hardly or say hi

[spartan55]

I don't know what happened, you didn't say.

[Asker]

We had a misunderstanding and I was upset and didn’t want to talk to him again and he kept wanting to fix it now he don’t speak at all

[spartan55]

Yeah, he got tired of your immaturity.

[spartan55]

You don't typically stop talking to someone over a misunderstanding.

[Anonymous]

Puncation would be nice.

[Asker]

Sorry English is not my first language