How do I respond to my white friend who says he’s the only man who will truly love me?

[Anonymous]

As a black woman I’ve never dated a black man. My ex boyfriend is Hispanic (I know it isn’t a race). One of my guy friends admitted he’s been chasing me since we were 12 and always wanted me to be his girlfriend and asked if I was his girlfriend once. I looked at him like he was nuts. I told him I liked him as a friend.
He asked me, “Why won’t you give a white man a chance? I would treat you like a queen and some white guys appreciate black women more than black guys or other races.”
I mean that’s not already true. Some black guys liked me. My crushes were either black, mixed or Hispanic. Some white but mostly black. I mean I’m a black woman. There’s nothing wrong with white men but I prefer black. I told him, it’s not that I won’t give white men a chance, I just prefer black men.”
He looked at me sadly. He said no man has every appreciated you or valued you or gave you nice things have they? Your ex boyfriend didn’t appreciate you. No man will EVER love you like I do. You always go for good looking guys but never look my way. One day you will realize that I am the one for you all these years. You’re the only girl I ever loved and that will never change. We’re both autistic and chubby. I like my women black and plump, not so skinny or too gorgeous.

[HollyK21]

This has been going on for agessss, you’ve posted about this so so so much, it’s great that you’ve taken a break from all the posting but what’s the point? You never listen to us. You and I have spoken extensively, and you have every excuse in the book as to why you can’t cut off this “friend” who you know is in love with you. No matter how harsh he is.

[Asker]

Have we? Because I don’t remember that. I have no idea what you’re taking about?

[HollyK21]

Please don’t do that, I promise there is not an influx of autistic black with an autistic male best friend who has been in love with her for years. Your dad and family even tell you give him a chance and you decline over and over. Like I know this whole story.

[HollyK21]

*an influx of autistic black women

[Anonymous]

I’ve seen this question before. If you’re not into him, don’t try to force it. It’s ok to prefer black guys. Some black guys make really good partners. (Of course, some white guys do too.)

[Opinion Owner]

Also, that is extremely selfish and entitled of saying that he was the only man who will ever truly love you. If he really loved you, he would not say that.

[exitseven]

Maybe he sees you as an awesome woman, not a black woman. People make too big a deal about race these days.
My girlfriend's roommate was black but was relatively light skinned. She told me that her father would not let her date anyone who was darker than she was. I thought that was nuts.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[slatyb]

Why do you feel that you need to respond? His assertion is rather demeaning to you, implying that no one can love like he could. Tell him to shove his negativity up his ass.

[Anonymous]

Did he just imply u are ugly when he said “ I like my women black and plump, not so skinny or too gorgeous”

[choco-latte]

Sounds like he’s calling black women in general mid or ugly too since he’s saying he likes the opposite of skinny and gorgeous

[Opinion Owner]

@choco-latte exactly.

[Anonymous]

Does it really matter, this is completely fictional. So finishe it however you like.

[Anonymous]

Say what you wanna say