He’s been flirting and sexting other women online—should I stay or leave?

[Anonymous]

[EmmaMary]

Surely you should have realised by now that men will always be men, with those being led by the "head" between their legs.

Leopards Never Changes Their Spots.

[Nikki1989]

Knowing what I know about men, he has probably been doing this all along. He won't change. Move on.

[EzraIsShy76028]

I mean of course you should leave. This shouldn't even be a question.

[MrChinaski]

Impossible to say from 13 words you offered. Ut's not a good sign though.

[Anonymous]

Ok well first of all who is he to you? Boyfriend, husband, friends with benefits?

[Asker]

boyfriend / child father

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Need more context. What’s been going on w the relationship? How long have you two been together?

[Asker]

3 years
I found out he’s been talking to other women on social media saying sexual things to them like he want to get them pregnant and etc. He just recently shown me a ss of him on ft with another woman and she was naked on the call. Apparently I come to find out he been messaging other women since I been pregnant with our son which is 3 years ago. But he claim he never slept with nobody but me

[Opinion Owner]

Was this planned as far as the baby? Have things changed since you had the child? Less sex? Not that I’m justifying what he’s doing just trying to see where things changed. Could be too he wasn’t ready to settle down. How old is he?

[Asker]

He’s 30
Nothing changed in our sex
Our son won’t plan

[Opinion Owner]

I would t be surprised if he was already talking to other women before you got pregnant. More than likely he was t really looking to settle down. You should have made him wear a condom, I never understood how a lot of women give. Man a child w out getting married first.

[Opinion Owner]

I think you need to weigh the pros and cons of this. Is he working? Helping a the baby? Helping financially?

[Asker]

No he been out of work for 8 months but he been looking

[Asker]

He had before tho but for 8 months up to now no

[Opinion Owner]

I don’t think I he’s been looking hard enough. That’s almost a year. A lot of places are hiring. So who’s been paying for everting? You two live together?

[Opinion Owner]

Why is he out of work?

[Asker]

I live my parents till I get back on track he live with somebody in his family. My parents don’t like him.

[Opinion Owner]

So did you go against how your parents felt about him? I’m not your parents but I could see why they would hate him. He’s 30. He should somewhat be established, possibly living on his own or w a roommate. How old are you?

[Asker]

He don’t a way to and from work

[Opinion Owner]

So you live in the city? There’s always a way to get to work. He’s just making excuses. My question is how is he making it through life now as far as food, rent, things like that?

[Asker]

I’m finna be 25. I had lost my place and my car when I was pregnant so I had to move back in my pregnant

[Opinion Owner]

I rbi k you need to cut him lose. I don’t care if you have to walk 5 miles to work. Find a way. You have a son. He can’t catch a ride w someone. Purchase a bike? There’s always a way. Even when I grew up in the desert w my job being 15 miles away I found a way to get there. He’s just straight up lazy.

[Asker]

The person he lives with he don’t give them nothing for staying with them and as for food he eat up their food

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. So do you really need an answer to your question about whether to stay or leave? I mea. As it is now you’re on your own. I doubt he gives you money for your son. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t purchase groceries or diapers or even take his son to stay w him to give you a break. If he can use people the way he’s using them he can definitely do the same to you. What benefits does having him in your life provide?

[Asker]

Nothing really

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn’t even say nothing really. I’d say nothing. He’s causing you stress w out even being there. You need to focus on you and your son. I hate to say this but you’re basically a single mom. What’s his background? Race?

[Asker]

He’s black so am I

[Opinion Owner]

You need to move on. This isn’t good for you. It’s not good for your son. So unless you want to stay in this same situation 10 years from now you need to make things better for yourself. It’s good to be a struggle, but you at least have your parents who I’m sure are more than willing to help you. But you need to stay strong because chances are he’s going to comeback, especially if you make a better life for yourself. What do you do now?

[Asker]

Rn I’m working at a factory work almost 60 hours a week just to provide for my son and take care of myself also but I’m trying to go back to school to get in the nursing field

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. Well don’t try. Do it. Again your parents are there. Even if you take one class a semester if that’s all you can do for now as far as prereqs. It may take 4-6 years but hey you could be in the same situation you are now so what sounds better. There’s a number of scholarships for single moms, also depending on where you work they could pay for your education. How about trying to get to to medical quick as far as getting your foot in the door. Work for that company, see if they have programs for nursing students.

[Asker]

Oh yeah I forgot to tell u my child father is verbally abusive calling me a terrible mom and a bitch and more when he argue

[jahaims]

Crazy you have to ask

[tiredpanda]

Leave…

[Elektra96]

Leave he only around til he finds better.