You're thinking too much about it and I understand that your friend is looking out for you, but let's get real.
The both of you were never a couple and you moved away for a while. Yes, he's going to be active in the dating scene, he's single and so are you. It's not a red flag at all that he's on dating sites, because he's single. He may be happy to have the casual dating with you again, but don't get your hopes up on him seeing potential of something really happening. He has options that are closer to him than you are right now
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It's neither. He's keeping his options open. And you should do the same.
You're way premature in expecting some kind of exclusivity. Try actually DATING first.
And consider what you'll do to get and keep him. Do you even know how to do that? My guess is you've never even considered it, nothing about what YOU would do for HIM.
You said you were casually dating, did you get things straight with him and told him you wanted something serious? if you did, then yes, it's a bad sign if he knows you want something serious FROM YOU. But if you didn't tell him, you should. Being in a relationship in which both parts don't know what kind of relationship is is like walking on eggshells, it never works unless both parties put the cards on the table (are honest with each other).
I have been with my guy for almost 4 years, and about a month ago he paid money to join a dating site. I think he has a collection of them. I am still not over that - it still hurts me and makes me want to say just go! Find someone else, but you can't have me and go on dating sites. They are always looking for someone better. It really sucks!!
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If a woman tells me she's dating me casually that means both parties have the ability to see other people. If she said she wanted a committed relationship then I would say yes or no. Since you told him casual or w/e it's you that needs to tell him you want something more and wanted to know if he felt the same
What did you expect? You know you did not have a serious committed relationship. You both just said you're interested in that. "dating casually" isn't it. If you both agree to focus on each other he'd drop the dating apps.
If you were both supposed to be monogamous and he was doing that, then it would be an issue.
If this is just something casual and you are both fine with that then no, it wouldn't be wrong to do that.No you just haven't made him an offer he can't refuse yet. He understands his value to women so maybe you should try harder
You guys are not exclusive at the moment so it seems he's not closing that door YET, in case things don't work out as expected. I would not say it is a red flag.
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He can still be intrested but you two are not yet dating or exclusive so he is still on the market
It’s not confirmed. He’s not going to hold out for you.
If you and him get back together and go out on 6 plus dates or something like that it’s different. However you and him are not official. At least that’s not how he sees it.Honestly he's single until you two have a discussion otherwise so don't judge him or over think his actions when he's just behaving as a regular single guy
There are no guarantees you’re actually coming back or whether you two are going to date or not. Until you guys are exclusive there is nothing wrong with keeping your options open.
I think it’s not bad and not surprising that he’s on dating apps since you guys aren’t yet together.
I've heard it's hard to permanently remove your account from these things but if he's actively using get the fuck out
I guess he is keeping a back up or not sure of the relationship yet
No, just give him a little time
It sounds like he likes you and probably enjoys his time with you but It doesn’t look like he loves you the way you love him if he’s still looking
It just means he doesn't fully trust you yet.
You are not the one for him.
Yes he's looking for options.
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Yes. Its a bad sign
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