What are the signs that indicate that a man is a good man? How to tell the difference between bad and good men?

[SeaStorm1]

I have struggled in previous experience with some previous ex boyfriends and I know most of them were mostly bad ex partners. Part from one ex boyfriend but still ended the relationship. From experience from college that i want to a learning disability special college some of them were players and some where cheaters and the last one that i did meet on facebook turned out to be toxic. The red flags never showed up until it was too late and i was already wanting to move on and i was the one that did break up over text and he tried to push me to get back together. Then did message me on Facebook on my old account and i also did block him on my new account on Facebook to I can't get attracted to men that i met at some social events in city centre. There is no where to go to any social events in my town and is already been very limited to some events only one each other one week is just on one day each week. Same thing in the city centre is only one day each Thursday. It has to be special learning disability events. These are the events that I can only go to. My type of men seem to be on a very rare scale that is get attracted to. I would prefer a man that is hosent , repecful, open communication , ask questions if you don't know and be both type of intellege. TheThe guys that I'm not attracted to are idiots, asshole, bad boys , cheaters and players. These type of men that I keep getting on some dating apps. I also got some men in RL turning out to be too young or too old for my age range limited. i also do struggle when men don't talk to me sometimes in real life. I just think they are just being friendly and not being flrity. What are the signs that indicate that a man is a good man? How to tell the difference between bad and good men?

[Ben487]

you can tell because they have respectable jobs, they treat people nice, their friends are quality people, they don't constantly bitch about their problems, or cause drama, they don't have a police record to find, they don't usually do drugs or drink to excess, or have tatts on their face, or have a laundry list of ex girl friends, they don't speak like total shit heads, or act like a puffed up crows cock around other men, they don't gossip incessantly, or have screwed up demands, they usually have good relationships with their parents, etc, etc, etc... everybody knows the signs , its so obvious

[SeaStorm1]

I can't get men with job. i'm stuck with learning disabilities can't get men that can drive.

[exitseven]

If they treat everyone with respect and are good to the waitstaff if a restaurant and still take care of their parents it means they are good.

[SeaStorm1]

I see most of men will be prented to be good.

[exitseven]

Sooner or later you will see. This is why you don't have sex on the first date

[SeaStorm1]

yep i do not have sex on first date at all aand they still prentend.

[exitseven]

I k ow what you mean. It really rakes time to get to know someone. Sometimes you jump the gun because you want them to be awesome and so you make yourself believe they are good and then you get burned.

[SeaStorm1]

they ended prenteding even more.

[exitseven]

@seastorm1 not everyone is a scumbag.

[SeaStorm1]

Is seem to be this way for me both online dating and RL with old creeps or tall men that I'm not interested that I got one from online dating that was entitled jerk. kept repeating that I wanted to date guy like him and did kept repeating that same line over and over again and yep I did block.

[exitseven]

@seastorm1 When I was your age (I am old) I had a string of bad relationships. It really soured me on dating and finally I decided I was done with dating maybe forever., I went to a concert with a girl I was dating and decided that I was done with her. The next day I went away doe a few days to go fishing and just hango out. That was the day I met my future wife.

[SeaStorm1]

Yet I can't even do these thing. I can't even go out alone since I'm women with a learning disabilities. I always has be my stupid mum or with a trusted adult with me if I wanted to go.

[bededazzle]

you have to take it slow and have boundaries. it will become very clear in time

[SeaStorm1]

yep been talking slower always. still nothing yet

[bededazzle]

do you mean by still nothing that you will stay with a man for months and not be able to determine he is good, or d do you mean he will turn out to be crummy? it takes time to determine either way sometimes

[SeaStorm1]

I meant by nothing i don't get second dates or get canled twice the second dates. only had ever has just first date and that about it.

[bededazzle]

oh. that just sounds like normal dating to me. just keep trying

[SeaStorm1]

yep i been trying and still ended nowhere clsoed. i'm still single.

[SeaStorm1]

closed meant

[SeaStorm1]

bye then

[Gauravshah23]

Don't take first date seriously...
Watch his behaviour from 3rd date

First impression is always fake impression.

[SeaStorm1]

I don't take first date seriously and thery all leave me with nothing

[sirderpsalot123]

Look at how they treat people they aren't trying to bang is always a good metric

[Anonymous]

Good man: mangina simp. Bad man: me.

[SeaStorm1]

nope these one are just as bad