Is it possible to change a girls opinion about you?

[Anonymous]

I have this really big crush on a friend of mine who I've liked since 2006. but she thinks I'm a smart ass and sarcastic and I try to undermine her and use her words against her.

I don't try to be like that but I'm not real good with girls I never even been in a relationships for christ sake.

I think that me and her would make a great couple but I have trouble not acting like a jack ass and I'm not great at really talking to a girl I like... what should I do?

[Anonymous]

you sound like the guy I liked forever haha, I stopped talking to him because he was constantly rude to me, hot and cold with games, I asked him to hang out and he said he's busy and I just felt rejected over and over again, with peaks of flirting and revealing his feelings in between, like he would stare at me and blush or meet eyes with me...it was just 50/50 and I felt so hurt in the end I couldn't take it anymore and cut him off altogether. he never cared to come after to me so it justified his feelings for me, which were nonexistent.

anyways, I do think you can change her opinion, I believe people change, they grow up and learn something, they learn respect and having a good heart, I think you should contact her and try to talk to her tell her you were thinking of her and miss the good times.

you have to get married SOMEday, you're going to have to open up to the girl you love and communicate and be her strong support system. its good that you're becoming more of a grown man and are realizing your mistakes =] its never too late to correct them. don't let her get away this time! all the best.

[carinabina820]

Here is what you need to do (listen very carefully).

#1 find out what her favorite flowers are.

#2 buy her a dozen of them (no matter how expensive they are)

#3 take them to her house/dorm and ask her to go out on a date with you (make it a good one, not just some stupid dinner/movies, something special). Get down on one knee to do it.

Trust me she will be enthralled. Even if you feel like an a**hole doing it, it will win her over <3 GOOD LUCK!

[b61983]

ask her out. most girls like jackasses. so your chances are high.

if she says no, then move on. your not going to change her opinion becasue that would require changing yourself, and that's virtually impossible let alone absolute torture. don't change for someone, then your lieing to you both. and stop liking someone who doesn't like you for you...find someone who does!

[decentusername]

it depends on her and her attitude.

and personally I like sarcastic smart arses.

just sayin

[dwiller943]

Maybe convince her by changing if you want her THAT much. But at the same time, if you have to change for her, then it's obviously not meant to be.

[scm123]

just be a good guy and be polite