Do girls change their minds after they dump you?

[fabio10]

We broke up for no good reason really other than she needed space, no fights etc ! Is it possible she will change her mind ? She says she does not want to be with anyone ? and has got jealous and let me know about it when I've spent time with another girl whom is my friend !

[Anonymous]

Well you are on a break, usually means doing other things but not seeing anyone. Cos you saw a 'friend' she is dubious as to the nature of your friendship with this person. She most likely didn't want you to see someone as such and expected you to follow her pattern and do other things.

If she needed space, then you either must have been together for a good while or that she felt that she couldn't do stuff while being in the relationship. Being jealous is a sure sign of insecurity, perhaps you didn't do anything to alleviate her concerns.

The only way you will know if she will come back to you, is if she contacts you or wants to talk. You need to put her at ease about this girl, cos if she has any doubts, that can harm a relationship. If you want it to work you have to put work at it.

Give her some time, contact her after about 2 to 3 weeks, send her a text to say hi, how are you doing...and then wait for her reply. She may or may not respond immediately but give her time. That's all you can do. But on the other hand, if she has set no time line for her and you to get back, then you cannot wait forever,. so as I said, give her 2/3 weeks and contact her. If you don't get a response then you need to consider your next step. Cos it is unfair to expect someone to wait indefinitely. So she needs to be clear how much time she needs.

[Anonymous]

I would. But that's only because I change my mind a lot. Is she pretty indecisive most of the time?

[fabio10]

Well lately ya she has, she was going to travel to NY then she didn't then she was going to travel to OZ and then she didn't and now she going to the same college as me yet we are broken up and not talking !

[Opinion Owner]

She might. As long as you two didn't have a terrible breakup and both of you are still single, the possibility is always there.

[fabio10]

I hope your right break up was on good terms but a week after I told her I could not be friends with her cause I love her and see her as more then she got mad saying I was selfish etc and got jealous when I hung with a female friend for the weekend its very confusing ! what do you think?

[thetheme]

Usually when a girl puts you in a certain place ion her mind you stay there. She thought about it for a long time before she dumped you and doesn't want you in her life that way anymore, so you should never talk to her again. As far as her being jealous, she just wants your attention and nothing more. She still wants you to "wait" for her, and stick around in limbo having false hope about her coming back, girls get their kicks from stuff like this. Let be guess, she wants to be just friends with you? Leave this girl in the dust, live your life, have some fun, and date other girls asap. You were too easy for her, everything was good, no fights, no arguing, no drama, and women need conflict to keep the relationship " interesting". She proabaly sees you as the "nice guy" and you know where that takes you with girls, nowhere. She has no authority over who you talk to or who you hang out with or date because the relationship is over, and there can be no friendship because the friendship ends when someone has feelings for the other.