Should I change myself to make a girl to love me? I'm not her type of guy?

[tugazorean]

So I'm in love with this girl. She knows I like her, but she doesn't know I love her. We speak to each other everyday.

She told me she wants a driven, cold, controlling, arrogant, dominating, charismatic and powerful guy.
But the problem is...
I'm sensitive, depressed, suicidal, not confident at all, shy, anxious, and not interesting.

So I thought maybe I should try to change. Is it what I really should do? And if not, why not?

You should change.

You should never change.

Other.

[Anonymous]

I put A that you should change but not for her but for yourself. I always think the best thing is to Not jump into a realtionship if your not happy with yourself. I think the best thing for u is to work on yourself and find what makes u happy first. Also, i dont think you should change for a girl, if that person is the right one for u, they will like u for you. I mean i dont think its best to try and be something u may not be. Lets say u changed for her but u werent happy with urself trying to be something ur not for her, than u will feel even more down. Now if she makes u feel like she inspires & encourages you in a positive way to want to be a better you, than thats okay. Just make sure your happy too, not just her. Im sure ur a great guy, So keep ur head up and do what makes u happy. Hope this helps. :)

[Anonymous]

Even if you do change for her she might not like the change on you, I don't know if this makes any sense but there was this one guy who I liked but he didn't like me so I tried to change myself to be what he liked but I feel like that just pushed him away further. You shouldn't have to change yourself for someone else because sometimes it just doesn't work.

[Mystruggleswithyou]

Look mate, You shouldn't really change just for her. But if you want any chance of becoming more than friends; get rid of the suicidal and depressed emotion. If you get up and enjoy life and show her that you enjoy life, she will like you a lot more. Trust me on this.
I hope everything goes okay :)

[DaniJ]

Don't change. (Except for the suicidal part. Change that.) It sounds like she wants the guy from 50 shades of gray, and that's not a real person. You should tell her good luck with that, and then find someone who wants you how you are.

[Curious-koala]

What the girl lion said.. Dude never change for anyone. And you might be in the friend zone by now. So you should really ask her out or see what you should do before you fall more for her. At the end of the day you will most likely find a girl that has a better personality and she will be way more beautiful than her. You sound similar of me in those days. I would get in to athletics if I were you anything that makes you sweatmakes you strive to get better at it'll keep you interested give you a skill keep you in excellent shape if you like it enough , keeps you social and you'll be interesting to girls that like you for you. Try out jiu jitsu. Bra

[evenlift]

You do need to change. You're holding yourself back with negativity.

But, the qualities that she suggests aren't rational either.

So, yes, you should change, but not in the way she suggests.

[Lion0128]

You shouldn't change just for a girl/guy.
I started to change my attitude when I first met my current boyfriend, I started being the badass, but in the end he fell in love with me for me.
If you change yourself then she isin't liking you, she's liking the person you are pretending to be, so just stay you and eventually the right girl will come along

[Strider90]

You should change and get rid of your problems. It will be so with every girl you will meet in your life. Its like besieging a castle. You have to fight and take it to raise your own flag on the citadel.

[Anonymous]

If changing is for good then why not. But you shouldn't change just because of her. One should learn to appreciate you for who you are.

[Iron_Man]

No man you do what you want to do be your own man

[tugazorean]

But she will never like me that way

[Iron_Man]

Then she's not worth it come on man your the man here right?

[tugazorean]

Yeah I guess so

[Iron_Man]

Good luck to you