i met him on a private party where i was working as a hostess. he flew me out to go be with him a few times but i always expressed how important it was to me to go back home and do my own thing which he has been respectful about and even made the trip to me to see me a few times. some weeks ago he said he wanted to take me to a nice place and it was a super expensive restaurant that i clearly couldn’t afford which made me upset because i told him from the get go that i don’t want to have to change myself to fit into his lifestyle which i truly respect and don’t expect him to “downgrade” for me. so being at that place for dinner was uncomfortable but i didn’t say anything. i got a really good internship for this summer and as a celebration i decided i was going to buy myself a pair of prada loafers, i’ve been saving for that. he insisted on going to the store with me and pay for it, i told him that’s not what i wanted and that he was missing the point and he goes “the shoes are worth your entire paycheck what are you going to do next?” told me to just let him pay. which i did and later that day i sent him back the money and he was super offended. we got into a fight and didn’t talk for a bit. me and him aren’t a couple, he hasn’t asked me that. but i really like him and he said sorry after the thing is do you think it is going to work? i don’t want to live off of his money because i don’t feel good doing that, it’s like i don’t have any worth. i want to finish school, get a job, be able to accomplish my own goals and he doesn’t seem to understand that i know that he wants to make my life easier but at the same time it’s like he doesn’t value my own schedule? like he said he would love for me to move with him to where he’s playing which makes no sense in my head that he wouldn’t consider that maybe i’m happy here? i don’t know. what do i do, should i just seeing him? is money going to be an issue between us forever? how do i make him see my point?
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Next door girl dating a professional athlete. is it going to work?
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he doesn't respect u enough
I don't know why u r still dating him
he is the first man i get involved with as an adult and my experiences dealing with others just in general aren’t the best since i seem to find it hard to set clear boundaries. sometimes, though, i tend to overreact to simple situations and i really like him before anything else he’s a great friend to me, he keeps me company and gives me the feeling i feel like i’ve been looking for my whole life so maybe that’s why i’m still debating whether i’m overreacting or this is truly an issue
he could make a good friend but doubt he would make a great partner
his attitude is major red flag
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