My boyfriend hasn't touched me yet

[Anonymous]

We've been together for about 4 months now. He's amazing. Very caring, sweet and I've never been so happy in my life. But he never touches me. He tells me I'm gorgeous and that he loves me but then why won't he touch me sexually. I touch him all the time, when he's talking, when I have to get his attention, on the road, for fun etc.

Yesterday I just randomly asked him if he never has the urge to do naughty things (in a jovial way) and he said he does all the time but if he starts doing them then I'll run away.

I think he's afraid I'll be offended. I'm kinda taking the blame for it because I am always complaining about how guys in the past have dated me for my looks and how they tried to use me and how I hate guys who get touchy feely with me.

But right now I am just craving for his touch. I do the casual touch all the time. What can I do to make him touch me?

[Big_D]

I completely agree with swtbttrfly, he definately sounds like a really great guy. He is obviously afraid of making a mistake because he cares greatly about you and wants to stay with you.

If I were in his position I would be doing the same thing. I would definately have gotten the vibe that touching is off-limits. If you want this to change, then you have to make the first move. Talk to him, tell him that you think he's special, he's not like the other guys and that you are comfortable with a bit more physical touching.

To remove all doubt from his mind, start making out with him randomly, touch him, do whatever - he'll losen up for sure - no guy can keep his hands of his woman if she has just thrown herself onto him haha.

Just be sure to tell him how greatly you appreciate him, and how caring, gentle and understanding he has been.

I wish both of you all the best.

[Littletad]

There's nothing more romantic or more worthwhile, than spending the weekend playfully chasing your girlfriend around the house.

I agree with the other user too, you have gave him somewhat of a "Don't touch me, until I feel it's comfortable" vibe. The only way for him to truly know when it's safe touch you, is for you to do it yourself. Take is hands in yours, and place them in the paces you want him to. Maybe not directly, but at least enough so he gets the hint. Have fun. :)

[swtbttrfly]

It seems like he is so into you he doesn't want to upset you. Especially because he knows about issues you have had with this in the past, it sounds like he is being really careful not to make that mistake because he obviously wants to keep you around! I think you need to make it clear to him that it's ok for him to go for it, either by telling him or by touching him the way you want him to touch you.

He sounds very sweet both by your description, and the fact that he is clearly taking his time so not to mess this up with you. If I were you, I would start by telling him how sweet he is, how happy you are, etc, and that you would be OK with getting more physical. I think an important thing too is making sure he knows that he is not like those other guys, because that seems to be what he is afraid of.

[Ivan_Nas]

i think that in somway you gave him the idea that you don't want to be touched , because I don't know anyman who doesn't wana do that all the time , so just be straight and forword , and tell him that its ok , or start somthing crazy and show him that your happy with it , anyway he needs somekinda of approval sign

[darkscorpio]

Just be straight with him. Tell him although a lot of guys have dated you for your looks and get touchy feely you know he cares about you and you care about him and that touching would be perfectly fine.

[anotherguy]

It looks like you need to be bold. Say something like you "really make me hot" or the next time you kiss try putting your leg between his or touching his thigh.