When he says he's jealous, does that mean he has feelings for you?

[karrotsalive]

I was once told that in order to tell if you really have feelings for someone, more than just a friendship, you find yourself getting a bit jealous when a member of the opposite sex speaks to them(granted they are not homosexual). Nothing crazy, just like a wake up call in a way.

I find this to be true,for me personally.

The reason why I ask, is, this guy D.I have been on/off w for quite sometime due to him being bipolar and unstable a lot of the time we aren't together at the moment, so I was trying to be open to meeting new guys. Always friendship first with me. Anyway, I did meet someone and it was all sweet and glorious, except for the fact that this new guy R. lived far away.

He did come visit twice and each time I decided I'm not into him.(I realized when a girl started to flirt with him, I didn't care at all.)

My on/off again D. found out and actually met him, since this new guy R.is friends with his brother who happened to bring him around...

D tried to contact me ,but I wasnt feeling stable myself, so I needed time alone.

After a few days, D. and I met up for dinner and he brought R. up first calling him by a different name when he knew perfectly well what R.'s name was. Then he continued to tell me that he had been feeling very jealous.

Now, I'm close with D's family and they all feel sorry for me,(haha)because they know he loves me, but he's "sick" as well as afraid of commitment.

Im just confused. In my heart I do feel that he loves me, but since we aren't together my head thinks that he has no feelings for me...

Is his jealousy with me being with someone else or anyone at all mean he does have feelings for me, and may not know how to handle or deal with them?

He does tend to intellectualize any feelings he ever has.

Or am I just thinking like a hopeless romantic?

[Seraphic]

It could mean one of two things. Firstly, the factor is, that he could be a lonely person with not many friends. I can relate to this as I've never really had that many close friends and used to cling to the people I did know, maybe a bit too much to the point I did get upset if they turned me down for someone or something else. Also it might not be that, people in general do get jealous of friends spending time with other friends, especially someone they feel they do not particularly like. The second factor is that he does have feelings for you and can't express them very well just yet (maybe because he is not feeling stable enough to do so, especially with Bipolar Depression which is very heavy on a person's emotional stability) or hasn't had a chance to. He feels that R. is a potential threat to your friendship, and a friendship cannot be more than what it is, if there is another guy involved.

I'm not entirely sure what he could be thinking or feeling but it is most likely one of the above, depending how well you know him I hope that these can support your current knowledge.

All the best.