If a guy gets jealous, does it mean he has feelings for you?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

May be

Other option. Pls drop a note

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I think most likely, yes, but it really depends on the guy and the situation. I think with most guys it's a good indicator, but in some cases some guys just like being the center of every girl's attention (same with some girls wanting to be the center of every guy's attention) regardless of whether or not they have feelings for that person. It's almost like a game to them, I think.

But, I think if a person is not interested, they usually don't get jealous and don't care if someone they're not interested in gets attention from another person.

[MissDawn7961]

yes it does ! she / he may not want to admit it but if he / she gets jealous over seeing you talking to another man / woman , then he / she is jealous , even though your break up was amicable for the both of you ! when your ex sees you having fun or married to someone else it has to run through their mind - could I have missed out on or dumped the one who was perfect for me - ? maybe I was to hasty in dumping them - ? Thanks

[Am_and_Pm]

I feel like people anyone, the emotional connection of "mine" stands for a long time. That is, remember when u were a child and u didn't want anyone to play with ur toys, even tho u didn't want it or were done playing with the toy.
Tho, there a variety of things y guys would get jealous. Just one of the many.

[Almostoverit]

It can. One does not always mean the other though. A person can be possessive and get jealous of your time even on a platonic level. Assuming one means the other is just an assumption. I think there are better ways to find out. Like ask.

[JHNS98]

It did for me six years ago. Had a crush on my best friend in my sophmore/her junior year of high school. I got jealous because I knew she already had someone, thus not being available to me.

They are still together and she's going to move in with him when he graduates uni.

[SexyAshh]

It can be a mixture of yes and no.

Sometimes they can get jelous just because they find out they have competition and its an ego thing. Once the competitions gone there egos fed and they will just drop you

The other would be they actually are jelous.

[roopesh007]

Obviously... some may say it's insecurity... some are saying he seeing you as his property...
Some are saying he doesn't wants to lose the attention..
In short that all means he has feelings for you it can be friendly or more than friendly... that I am not sure... but feelings definitely

[emmamarie]

that’s not always the case. Some guys just don’t want to see you move on simply bc he doesn’t want you to be giving another guy attention it’s all just selfishness.

[JDMFS]

Yes I'd say he has feelings but also feels insecure about where things stand with those feelings. It's not a good sign in my opinion. Jealousy is usually not a good thing in a relationship.

[Evilcharlie]

What other reason could there be for someone be jealous of a person that is in a relationship with the person they are in loving with?

[standingUP]

No it means he has issues and needs to address them and stop acting like he's wearing a dress.

[Asker]

What kind of issues could be possibly have?

[standingUP]

Insecurity, trust issues, control issues, confidence issues.
If this is your boyfriend you could be doing a lot to build up his ego that he cannot do for himself. It could be a tough relationship for you.

[Asker]

He isn’t my boyfriend. We are colleagues and he and I had feelings but he was in a relationship so I made sure I was within my moral boundaries but I did ask him once if he would like to date me in case he is single. He panicked and said that he will marry his girlfriend and his feelings for me had passed. I stepped back. Fast forward few months, he is now single and has been showing interest but has been hot and cold. He avoids me at work when people outside our core work friends group are present but does flirt with me when we run into each other. He gets jealous of our other common male single friends and I can tell he likes to check who I am texting if I at all which is rare because I’m not a text person.
His this behaviour tells me that he is still interested but he should be making a move. Also, I am strong headed woman, most men don’t like that and since he had a very harsh mother while growing up so I’m thinking may be I trigger that fear in him so he keeps away but still likes me.
Could you pls tell me your take on this so I can get an outside and non biased opinion on this. Thank you!

[standingUP]

Well since he isn't your boyfriend and he is acting like that the same applies because of his trust issues that we just narrowed it down to.

[Asker]

I’m sorry that I’m asking you another question - so his trust issues with me could be that he thinks I’ll hurt him like his mother did? and his jealousy is just because he has feelings but scared to open up to me because that will make him vulnerable to me and may be he thinks then I will have power to hurt him?
I would really appreciate if you could help me understand about his possible trust issues.

[standingUP]

I am sorry I really want to answer right now very busy atm. I will answer in time ok?

[Asker]

Oh yes of course. Thank you!

[standingUP]

OK here's the deal. This guy is playing games or you are just reading too much into his actions. So this is where you prove yourself. You want him to want you. Make him guess like he is making you guess yourself crazy trying to figure him out.
Get cold.. ignore all of everything he does. he will notice. It's the game he is playing with you and it's working.. The one that ignores wins the battle. But THIS IS A WAR and battle go back n forth. so either you play that game or NUKE HIM.

YOU NUKE HIM by going straight up to his face and say shit or get off the pot. I am NOT playing this game. GO OUT WITH ME or say goodbye.

You seriously do have better things to do with your time and emotions and someone deserves the attention you are wasting guessing what this fool wants..

[Asker]

You are right. This guy is taking a lot of my energy. I have been working on how to tell him that my behaviour was in response to his odd behaviour. Also, I’m scared to say directly that if you are interested then you should date me. That because I don’t want to embarrass myself or feel desperate. I’m not desperate for him but yes I do like him. He has some fine qualities but clearly he doesn’t know how to keep his life sorted or to make up his mind about who he wants to be with.
I’ll tell him tomorrow. Working on the most polite way to say things since we also work together.
Thank you so much for your time. Your response tells me that you can feel my pain. I send good wishes your way.

[standingUP]

You’re welcome God bless you and your journey. Everything absolutely everything happens for a reason. This is only a chapter of a short story called life. Pride of going for it is not desperate.

[JimmyQ]

Take him out, birthday, whatever, get him drunk and start plastering him with your questions. If he is like all guys, he'll spill his guts and you can do whatever you want with him.

[Asker]

@JimmyQ thanks so much. That is a good way to get him talking but the trouble is that he and I have this cold phase going on. He used to be nice to me and suddenly would ignore me when some of our colleagues outside of our core work friends group used to join. That made me very upset so I started ignoring him myself. After that, everyday for a month, he was being very nice to me as if buttering me up to start talking to him. I don’t know if he did that because he missed the attention or because he has feelings for me.
So I can’t really take him out as you advised. It’s awkward.
He shows signs of interest but I’m confused if I should ask him directly if he is interested. Few months ago, he and I expressed our feelings but he was in a complicated relationship so it didn’t go any further. I stayed away which created distance between us. Recently he turned single but I was just being formal. He did show interest off and on but never asked me out directly.
So I’m confused if I should just wait or ask him directly. I have a feeling that he is on a dating app. But his interest in me still remains.

[Sarahr123]

Well, a little jealousy is normal and cute but if he is obsessive and crazy and it is for no good reason then he is psycho and it’s a red flag.

[kangy]

if people get jealous, it is because the other thing or people matter a lot to them.
definitely there must be feelings

[btbc92]

No, it just means he's either possessive or sees his dating pool is shrinking.

[spartan55]

It's possible, but not if it's an friends with benefits situation.

[The6ix]

I think so, to an extent yea. I mean I know girls who I used to talk to and are now married it doesn’t bother me one bit and in fact I hope there happy.

[coolhandroo]

Well it means he feels insecure about something. Not that he necessarily has romantic feelings toward her but definetly doesn't like losing the attention or affection of something

[anonbrunette99]

he either has feelings for you or is just an insecure, bitter guy

[Insightfull]

If he is jealous then there's no way he doesn't have feelings. That being said this is a horrible and cruel way to determine if someone has feelings.

[Synikal]

A lot of people have a want factor and don't want others coming between it. I get jealous of someone go after someone I think about once in a blue moon knowing they are thinking about me weekly. But that's me.

[Agape93]

Not always. He could simply see you as his property

[loveslongnails]

Jealousy is the result of an insecurity. If that's the "feeling" you're looking for, you've got it.

[Beta_Wolf]

No sometimes you have a good thing going and then they just drop you like nothing

[DiscomfortZone]

Yep. That feeling is called possession, and guys could also have it towards inanimate objects, so I wouldn't start a celebration yet.