Questions: Guy's Behavior

Call me boring but I want a traditional life.
I want to go on dates & be asked to be someone’s girlfriend. I want to get engaged / married and build a family. I want to stay at home cooking / cleaning / taking care of the kids.
I want to find a man that is in his masculine energy so i can be in my feminine energy. I want a man who is happy to provide.
Does this mean i’ll milk him of every penny? Of course not. I can and want to have my own part time job or own business. But I want someone who makes me feel safe and secure.
It seem like these traditional values have become lost in todays society. Everyday I see grown men wanting to live off of women. They expect everything to be 50/50 due to “equal rights” but when it comes to any domestic stuff they don’t move a finger to help.
Feels like us women have just taken on the burden of more daily work / problems for ourselves. We don’t even get surprise dates / flowers or little love notes anymore 😭😭 !!

where are the men who want a traditional woman? Where are the gentlemen that arnt ashamed to “simp” over their girlfriend & shower her in love?

are these just stories from fairytales?

ps. Age isn’t a factor because I’ve dated 30/33 years olds & they all have this same modern man mentality. Everyone just wants to be nonchalant 👎🏼

And if yes, how would he act if he would reciprocate and why does he stare?

I have started conversations with multiple people and they have all told me that the woman with surgeries and voluptuousness is the ideal woman, the meaning of a true woman. How true is that?

I am a woman without surgeries, I am not socially pretty or attractive, but I have never felt ugly, that's where my question comes from, is it possible to feel like a woman without having surgeries?

I was born a woman biologically, but I don't feel like one, the current beauty standards make it difficult, it makes me doubt myself, and at the same time it makes me feel bad since I don't feel feminine or that I have value as a person.

So there’s this guy in my class, who I sit behind of. I got to admit his kind of attractive but that’s it, he’s style is good and he’s eye catching so I be staring at him sometimes at class so I be seeing how he acts, now that seats changed I sit behind him and lately he turns around and we make a small eye contact (there’s no one behind me) and he touches his hair a LOT, especially today. He was fixing, touching his hair every 5 seconds and it really started distracting me to be honest. Then later his friend talked to me because we got class together and he was smiling and giggling at me while I was speaking to his friend and yes we had a small chat all together. I sometimes feel he be staring at me in both classes we got together but I might just be crazy. What do you guys think?