Guys, He texted another girl after we had sex should I drop him?

[Anonymous]

He hasn’t seen this girl in six months but we’re also not together but I just feel like it’s disrespectful because I wouldn’t do that him. I know we are single and allowed to have options. But as a guy‘s opinion, it makes me wonder. Why he sleeps with me and cuddles etc but care if she done when they haven’t each other in months he texted another girl as well but she taken. As a man what would this mean no respect or he just sees me as sex friends with benefits

[RespectfulGuy]

It tells a bit about him: that he's a romantic and a guy full of emotions. It may also mean he's insecure and lack of self-confidence.

Perhaps I speculate too much into his character based on a little clue.

Generally speaking, on the outset, dropping him and move on is the normal choice.

But if you think he has feelings and manifest care (now toward her), then what if you can get this care and feeling to be directed toward you. Would you be a happy person?

You answer. Then make an informed decision.

My principle in life is, choose kindness, be forgiving, but if it's abused, leave without looking back.

[Asker]

Yes, but I believe it’s disrespectful to have sex with me and then text another woman in my home in my bed after asking if she’s done I don’t know exactly what they were talking about but it gives the interpretation that he’s asking if she’s done with him and why should you care if she’s done if you guys haven’t seen each other in six months and you keep trying and coming back to me it makes me think he’s coming back to every woman he’s single so he can do that but it’s like half respect for me especially after sex that’s just disrespectful

[Asker]

And then it’s like he asked her if she’s done, but then when I go missing, he asks if I don’t like him anymore or why am I distant

[RespectfulGuy]

Sounds like he still quite immature in thinking.

Perhaps you think too much.

Perhaps you're right that he's disrespectful.

And relationship is for a lifetime, not a single act in life's drama.

Hence you may want to have a conversation with him why he texted her and express your feelings.

If such a conversation fails, then yes, move on. But what if he says something that you can accept? Who knows perhaps, you may start something.

Hence my suggestion is, talk it out (not text), like mature adults.

[Anonymous]

Well for one you shouldn’t have slept w him. Two like you said you two are single, he can decide to do whatever he wants regardless of how you feel. Was it disrespectful to text another girl while he was in your bed? Yes. But again you two aren’t official. If I was you yes I’d move on. I’m sure he will try to message you again.

[Anonymous]

That would be a wise move on your part.

[Asker]

To move on? Because I have been ignoring him and then he gets sad and text me asked me kinda similar way of how he asked her if she’s done, but we words in different with me

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, rid yourself of him and move on.