Polls: Guy's Behavior

This feels so icky to me because do they even like you or just that you are their body type

Whenever we're in the same room he seems so afraid.

It’s no secret that men are constantly being conditioned to be “strong” and not show too much weakness of vulnerability. How does this affect you today? Do you feel comfortable sharing your emotional side with the opposite sexe? Have you ever tried it? How was it received? Would you do it again?

He seems to really enjoy double dates with other couples (his friends) but I am starting to think that there is something off always having other people around, could we not enjoy the same thing just the two of us? Is he getting bored in the relationship?

I mean I wouldn’t forget if I didn’t like it I definitely wouldn’t do it again no matter the time span.

He only wants to once a week and says it’s amazing but is that why there is the time gap it’s not that good?

I come from a conservative community, so I hear a lot of complaints about how new generations of men aren't "manly enough" for this reason or that reason. People saying Harry Styles isn't a man because he wears a dress, or you're not manly if you paint your nails or things like that. Wouldn't it be better to assume, for your sake and for theirs, that masculinity changes as time goes on?

It was only recently brought to my attention that every generation of men has complained about the new generation of men, going all the way back to the time of Ancient Rome when men complained that men weren't manly enough compared to the generation before them. The person presenting it gave this idea of "We can never meet the standards of masculinity if they always come from the past" so I'm curious. Do you ever feel like you can never meet those manly standards?

Hey, so I met a guy around 7 yr ago while I was working in a restaurant, he asked for my number &then a few weeks later I got a train to see him for the weekend. We got on really really well but I didn’t sleep with him as wernt officially dating, we spoke for months after but I ended up going travelling& when I got back he had a girlfriend, I ended up in a 3 year relationship but then we both somehow ended up single at the same time, he contacted me (as must have seen I deleted all photos of ex) we went on a date and the date was just amazing I can’t explain the butterfly feeling he gives me. Still didn’t sleep with him as I’m old fashioned and we weren’t exclusive.. anyways after the date I got back with my ex and we didn’t speak. A year later I’m single & he gets in touch asking if I’m okay and randomly turned up at my house with flowers to cheer me up. we end up talking for a few weeks and he’s asking me why I never make effort to talk to him and why he’s always chasing me (he’s a basketball player so I’m kind of wary that he’s talking to loads of other girls & I’m a bit shy I’m nowhere near as hot) by the way we still haven’t had sex but just having a really nice connection. Again he goes radio Silent on me.. so fast forward a few months and he rings me drunk saying I’m the only person he’s ever loved and he’s so nervous around me etc.. I thought I would make more effort with him so I start finally messaging first and stuff and we plan to have a night away and we talk about having sex & it gets quiet passionate. then again he goes radio silent. so a month goes by & after hearing nothing from him he pops up merry Christmas I love you & one day your going to be my wife which is random as hell since he practically ghosted me twice this year? Then after talking every night on the phone he’s gone silent again? am I reading this all wrong does he even like me or what? or am I just not making enough effort? & no he doesn’t have a wife or a girlfriend I know his family

I read it as a let down which when he commented he'd gone out with simple minded overly attractive cheap & sleazy women - one he even called a horror story himself - before is a rather shitty insult.

The thing is, is we had engaging interesting conversation before the date. And I am not unattractive - that is something many people have said. Yes I put on some weight due to Covid but I blatantly told the guy on our date I'm working to loose it, even spending 3 hours each time at gym various times in the week.

If not interested just fucking say so. His text >...

Good morning, I hope you had a nice weekend with some rest and relaxation. I have been innundated with classes the last couple of days.

I also wanted to share X how I’ve been feeling on a different level. I am enjoying getting to know you, what brings you happiness, what drives you and how you add happiness in to the world of others. You are a remarkable person.

I owe it to you and myself to share I’m not certain I feel connected across all levels in regards to compatibility.

These are never comfortable moments to share with someone but I have to communicate this to you and be transparent on where I’m at. I hope you can appreciate this honesty as I would never want to be hurtful by not sharing these feelings.

He tells me he doesn't have the funds to help and if i want him to rob a bank. I ask him if I could look in his wallet and he says no he has 120.00 dollars that he owes to someone. I feel so dumb because he's always asking me to be selfless and to help him out which i sometimes do, yet when my phone turns off i get no help, actually every-time a bill comes around it turns into a huge fight and again he has no money. I need help understanding this. Please