Do people notice flaws?

[Anonymous]

I know girls worry about their appearance, and we really pick on ourselves about our flaws. I am just wondering for peace of mind about guys thoughts on girls' flaws. I told my friend that guys don't really notice or don't care, she said the opposite. I am just trying to see who is right.

A) Do guys notice every little flaw about girls that girls notice about themselves or even other girls?

B) Is it easier for guys to overcome the flaws of a girl?

C) Would a guy notice if a girl's nose is a little too big, or she has a mole on her face, and will it affect what he thinks of her and if he likes her or not?

Thanks!

[Superstrength79]

When I read the word flaw I always think of some horribly tragic feature or scar or something. For the most part a little larger or smaller or different than the norm isn't bad. Some people will never be attractive to me, and others I might think wouldn't be end up being attractive. I think it will help your confidence some if you remind yourself that you don't have to be attractive to every guy in the world and that in the end you only have to be happy with one of them (if you go the marriage route in life). I tell myself that these days when a woman gives me a dirty look or otherwise, "Plenty of fish" and all that.

There isn't going to be any set formula to go by. I think we are attracted to people that remind us of those people we knew growing up who had a positive affect on our lives, and those that resemble people we find attractive or were lead to believe are attractive. Also, sometimes we are attracted by someone's impressive feature even if normally we never think about it.

I think you and your friend are both right. Some people are superficial, others could care less. One rule doesn't apply to everyone in life. As much as we'd like to simplify it that way.

[DeanW]

I think there is heightened sensitivity to flaws that one is aware of in oneself. I grew up with a gap in my teeth, so I am sensitive to that and notice teeth right away. My nose, however, is a fairly standard nose and nothing to think about one way or the other. So I don't notice noses because it's never been a thing. I think that speaks to what deadwait was saying to - that as an artist he has learned to see those things.

And we do learn to see them from past girlfriends as well. So it's about what we've seen before and what it made us think.

By and large, though, if a guy likes you he won't care. We notice the flaws that are important to us but don't really care, particularly if the girl is smiling at us.

The prettiest girl I've ever met had two scars on her face from falling through a glass table as a child. Granted they were in good spots and fairly inconspicuous, but my point is that she was still 100% gorgeous, despite the flaws.

[cutiepatootie]

From constantly working and hanging around my guy friends, I can tell you that the ones who are just looking for a night in bed notice the flaws. You hear them saying "Damn that girls got a nose on her" but they also notice major perks in a girl. While on the other hand, the genuine nice guys can see farther through the flaws. A girl threw up where I work and the guy that had to clean it up still said that he found her extremely attractive and they ended up dating for a long while, so I guess it depends on the guy and what they are looking for.

[deadwait]

Being a former art student, you better believe I notice a lot - more then some people even notice about themselves when nit picking - however I find flaws attractive to a certain point - its the combination of flaws that seems to draw me to people, love them even

A flawless person would be so boring, if such a person was ever to exist.

The one flaw I just can't over-come is excess weight - I spend a good amount of time working out, trying to watch what I eat, and keeping in shape, and I crave some similarity in that department

Cheers

[Anonymous]

Speaking for myself, yes I do notice flaws, but hey, I'm hardly Brad Pitt myself, so I'm sure I've got plenty of my own. I don't think guys notice the minor imperfections that girls get a bit obsessed with. Sometimes guys don't see flaws as flaws at all-my girlfriend hates it when her hair gets all messy in the wind, but I love it all crazy and fly-away! Flaws in personality and temperament are far worse than minor physical flaws. Friendly, natural girls are always popular. Their physical imperfections are hardly noticed.

[languagetimothy]

Yes we notice every little flaw. Yes we talk about them behind your backs amongst ourselves. Just like you girls do about us guys!

But have a look around you. How many perfect men and women do you see? People who get too hung up on flaws and imperfections end up living very sad and lonely lives. I'm happy to say that I'm not one of them.

To answer your exact question, you and your friend are both right. Yes we notice. No we don't care.

[ionlife]

A) We don't notice until we are wronged or rejected. Then some of us can become quite the critics and nitpick even the length of her fingernails.

B) Yes, especially if you like or fall in love with them.

C) Yes, we'd notice but it won't matter unless we dislike her and want nothing to do with her.

Basically, if we like the girl then nothing truly matters. Some guys can become quite the girls when they are rejected so at that point anything goes.

[Anonymous]

Answer A) Unless there actually looking for a flaw. Then No. With time It may come, but generally Guy's don't care

Answer B) We generally Don't care about little flaws, or in fact moderate to big flaws

Answer C) If it's a real true guy, not looking for his next lay, no it's not going to matter unless you make it a problem.

These are my thoughts on it, not every guy is the same

[jon73010]

B. If a girl is attractive I don't even notice any flaws. Generally the flaws we see in ourselves are minor and not noticed or considered by other people.