I cut myself for the first time today, and I feel REALLY bad for doing it?

[Anonymous]

I know self harm is very bad, but I cut myself today. I was so full of depression, and I needed something (or someone) to take it out on. Since I hate myself so much, I chose myself. I cut multiple short lines on my forearm, right where my beauty mark is, and I carved the word,"ugly" on it. It gave me relief. I can't explain why, but it did.

What are some better ways to relieve stress, because I feel this will become a habit... or it'll lead to me thinking about suicide.

[scampyMe]

as i stated in another such question all you need to realize is beauty of life.
every heck of individual suffers from problems and difficulties, that doesn't mean that it is the end of life or hurt yourself.
world is so beautiful enjoy , explore, invent new things, have fun, do some crazy stuff!
difficulties might come to knock you down at different stages of life but just show them how difficult you yourself can be.
you don't know what might happen the next moment.
and have got the least of idea bout what happens after death! so just don't build up a regret (oflosing your happiness) which you might not be able to compensate for
thus what you have is this moment, dont just spoil it doing pitty things like cuttin and hurting yourself!;)

[Asker]

You are so wise. Thank you.

[scampyMe]

xP! your welcome;D

[Jadekitten]

DO NOT CONTINUE DOING THIS. I cannot tell you this enough. You will think about it and want to continue it, you will think that it will help and you will think people like me are just being annoying. I thought I would be able to control it but it just ended up making things worse. Please stop while you're ahead. You may think you can control it if you continue doing it - you can't. I thought I could too. It ultimately made my depression worse. If you want to know more reasons why you shouldn't please message me, but please do not do it ever again, even if you want to. It becomes addictive and it ruins your life.

[Anonymous]

I went through a similar issue where my depression pushed me to cut myself. But I told my friend and he helped. It really depends on why you're depressed. I was depressed at the time because the emotional stress I was holding up collapsed and I felt like nobody would care, but I learned that's not true and I haven't cut since. You need to realize that you can stop the depression if you try. People love you and nothing will change that.

[Anonymous]

Exercise is an awesome stress reliever, one of the best. It also is good for you. Cardio and yoga would be really good I think. Also snapping a rubberband or hair tie could work. Scribbling on a piece of paper until it's completely black or tearing up paper could help.

[Asker]

Scribbling, that's going to ruin my pen. Lol I might try that. Thanks.

[Jadekitten]

Exercise is amazing for helping your depression. It also helped me stop self-harming.

[heavensgift2girls]

The best thing you can do is to get some counseling. I realize that is not an option for everyone. If you can't see someone about it, then you I would suggest that you search the web for some self help information. Not only do you need to work on better stress relief, but you also need to learn to stop hating yourself. There is no magical cure, that will make you feel better. Learning to love yourself and learning to handle stress takes a lot of work, but you are worth the effort.

[Asker]

I'm worth the effort? Thanks, No one ever told me anything like that not even myself. I'll take on your advice. Thanks again.

[sovetskii13]

Instead of cutting yourself use that energy you need to release by doing exercises. When I get really angry I go lift weights or punch a few pillows again and again. It releases that energy or tension I have in me. And it's obviously healthier than cutting yourself. If you can't do that and still prefer hurting yourself then you will need professional help because living like that is not an option. You won't achieve anything like that.

[Mesonfielde]

Well you COULD watch videos like this instead

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3W3Q3FHzA-g

I mean really, I think self-harm is more a cultural problem than anything else, similarly to how people who are depressed are told that drinking alcohol will make them feel better. Until I heard about self-harm from a USA person, I didn't even think of it.

[DarkEmblem]

Go bite a pillow as hard as you can. It did that when I was younger, but it worked.

[Asker]

Lol it wouldn't work, but that is really funny. Imagining a mad little boy, in a temper because his mom said go to bed and he locks himself in his room biting pillows. Lol

[DarkEmblem]

That is not even close to what I've been through though. But I still think it's way better than cutting yourself.

[Hahahahi]

I know how you feel.. I would talk to someone about how your feeling, keeping all these feelings inside you isn't good! X

[Asker]

Okr. I've been keeping in my inside emotions FOREVER, just to keep the peace. I got tired of it and started scraping my skin with my eyebrow cutter... and sadly, I liked it.

[Anonymous]

So now you are depressed and wounded so you should stop

[kittykatg]

See a counselor.