bi-polar or nah?

[Anonymous]

Hello everyone,
Soim re-posting this question since the first time i didn't get a guy's opinion, and since this is about a guy...

Soooo long story short i liked this guy (apparently he did too) back in HS (were both 22 now). Right after we "met" we quickly clicked and just spent those few months literally together everyday, the only thing is that i didn't know at that time that i was developing feelings for this guy i just thought he was just a very friendly person.. so everything was fine until this one day where he just decided to cut me off without giving me a reason or anything, and me i just let it go i didn't do anything about it.
He spent a long while being angry at me and hating me for god knows what, then after HS (during hs too sometimes) he would try to indirectly come back in my life again through friends and such. I didn't notice that, so once again i didn't do anything. years have passed (throughout those years he would ask my friends how i'm doing here and there blabla) and he randomly tried to be "friends" on social netw. not too long ago. Me, over the fight, i accepted, (why not w.e plus he had a gf, not like i was thinking of something..) but what im dealing with till this day is his weekly mood swings (he always had mad mood swings towards me).

I don't see him a lot, but everytime i do, i can never know if he's gona say hi or just ignore me (he can say hi today nd ignore me the next). We've been "cool" for a few months now and we still didn't have one conversation! I feel very awkward everytime i'm around him and it gets annoying (when your trying to forget about a situation and it keeps coming back) and no matter how hard i try to figure him out i can't -.-

i sometimes feel like he still didn't get over that fight but then again its been years and HE decided to reach out again not me, he can be immature sometimes.

[Monty3880]

I'm no expert on people who are bi-polar but yeah, if he has mood swings and all these ups and downs, there's definitely something out of whack with his personality. Your average guy wouldn't have all these ups and downs of wanting to reconnect but blow you off the next day, talk to you, then ignore you, The only time I can see a guy doing that is if he really likes you but his friends don't approve. In situations like that he may be kind when he's alone with you but a jerk when his friends are around.

One person I know who is bi-polar can go from an extreme low, almost depression, no energy to exaggerated enthusiasm. They'll be completely childish one minute and want everything their way or pout. Then moments later start talking to everyone around them with a baby voice like they're talking to a child. This person would go from being extremely polite with someone and then turn their back and bash them within seconds. They could be extremely hard-working one minute and know everything they're talking about and the next day be the laziest employee. One minute they're having fun and seconds later, something real minor sets them off.

So, if this guy is bi-polar, of course you don't want to turn your back on them if they're your friend... and it's definitely hard to approach someone and tell them they need to be tested or see someone. Usually, in their mind, they think they're normal. It's definitely a tough spot to be in. My suggestion would be to consult with someone who is more aware of the condition; your family doctor or some type of counselor, psychologist.

[Asker]

i believe he doesn't know how to deal with his emotions when it comes to me. because i'm not the only person he ever had a problem with of course, but a lot of other people that he had a problem with, he's cool with them now. So that obviously makes me wonder and ask myself what is really going on you know? who wouldn't! i want to talk to him about it but i feel like he will just laugh it off...

[Monty3880]

All I can say though is if you want answers, you need to take the risk of him laughing it off. It sucks to spend your time wondering what's going on, especially if it's on your mind before bed or something that you think about every day. Hopefully, if you do approach him, he'll be able to be honest with you.

[BearsAnswers]

Not necessarily bi-polar. I don't see manic tendencies in what you are describing. But definitely some kind of issue surrounding his mood. There is really no point in having this person in your life if they are just going to be a hot/cold source of frustration like this. It isn't going to add anything to your life, just complicate it and make it more stressful.

People often find themselves feeling like their life is spinning out of control. And it is usually because they have a lot of problematic people in their extended support network. And those people drain more than they add to the system. And the only way to stop their life from spiralling is to cut those draining people out of their life. This guy is clearly a drain. And it is clearly the type of person you would have to cut from your life to stop an out of control downward spiral. You have the opportunity to just cut the dead weight now before it drags you down into a spiral.

He is adding nothing but stress and frustration to your life. Cut him out of it and move on.

[Asker]

i don't see him that much anyway, i'm just trying to know why he acts that way with me only?
thank you for your opinion though :)

[BearsAnswers]

You're welcome. Good luck :)

[TheDisneylandSlasher]

True love means never having to say you're sorry😊

[Asker]

i dont think i get it.. lool :$