What should I expect to talk about and do with a therapist?

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So today I am meeting a thearpist at 4pm and Its my first time. I really don't want to be asked personally question or start crying cus my mom would worry and than I just can't stand the pitty. 
In your opinion do you think thearpist are helpful?

Dawsonwc · Accepted Answer

The first and last time I saw a therapist I explained why I was there and then she asked about my family life and past relationship experiences. They usually don't go too deep the first time. They kind of just ask surface level questions and let you be as personal as you feel comfortable with. They also kind of gauge how at risk you may be. Since pretty much everything was fine in the family and relationship areas for me we just kind of sat there until she asked if the discussion helped. I lied and later decided not to come back. What I learned from that experience is therapist are really helpful when their expertise match with your problem. Otherwise it's going to feel unproductive and awkward. My ex girlfriend has benefitted a ton from regularly seeing that very same therapist. So it's all really dependent on whether or not you're compatible with your therapist. I can say you get out of the experience what you give. So generally the more willing you are to open up and be honest the more helpful therapy feels.

reptocarl · Accepted Answer

Yes they are but what you get out of counseling is directly proportional to the honesty you put in it. If they ask how often you masturbates you tell them. There's a reason they ask everything. In this case sex is a normal part of everyday life and if you're not at least masturbating they want to know why. Since you've already made your mind up you're not going to be 100% open then you might as well not go.

Tori_Ritorna · Accepted Answer

Yes they are very helpful. Sometimes people need support and encouragement from a professional

My father was a Psychiatrist and he dedicated his life to funding , discovering new treatmends , and providing ongoing treatments/therapies to his patients. He helped many people to regain their life back and changed their outlook on life, so their lives could become more enriched. Therefore, they could be happier within themselves.

The therapy will be tailor-made just for you as every patient is unique with different needs. You don't have to do or say anything you don't want to. The therapist will guide so don't just go to the session and take it from there.

Therapists are there to help you as best they can so being open and honest will be more beneficial to you. They can only provide the right therapy for you if they get to know you , they can then get to the root cause of why you feel the way you do etc

Good luck 🍏🍎👑

jolee1 · Accepted Answer

I have been to a therapists a few times. The only times it worked was when i was more open to talking and discussing everything.
Don't feel bad about talking about anything. At then end of the day they want to help, they chose the profession and they would have heard a lot of different things on the scale from small issues to major.

At 20 it can seem strange to be talking to a therapists but i have found now at 26 that a lot of people i know have talked to therapists -all for varying reasons. Its not strange it's a smart thing to do.
At the end of your day your mum will want you to feel happy. She would rather you tell the therapist than bottle things up for years :D

hope it went well.

my last piece of advice is it is often hard to find the right therapists for you. It took me 4 different people but it was 100000000% worth it.

Avenuewriter · Answer

Yes, they are extremely helpful. I've been going to one for many months. The point of going to one is to speak to someone about a problem, and if that problem means you're going to start crying then go ahead and cry. They're there to help you through things like that. Be honest and try to get to the heart of whatever it is that's bothering you, otherwise they can't do their job and help you. And if you do feel like not talking about a subject at that particular moment, don't feel the need to. They want to provide a safe place for you to talk and figure out what's troubling you.

Ginnyweasley97 · Answer

My mom is a psychiatrist which is basically a therapist but she is also allowed to diagnose and prescribe people medicine. I think they are really effective and don't feel embarrassed going to a therapist. My mom talks to people who threaten to carry out school shootings. She once told me about a guy who wanted to kill 8 people at random with a chainsaw so she is grateful when a person with anxiety, suicidical tendencies, or depression comes in. The first session is going to focus on getting to know you so I encourage you to open up because what you put into this is what you get out of it.

Aleera · Answer

Yes, they are helpful. If you need to go to a therapist and are open to it, the idea of talking of issues you might have, It will help. Otherwise it won't really make any difference. He probably won't ask you something specific. He will be like, so what troubles you lately? And you will open up at one point. It's more like talking to yourself in a safe environment. Therapists usually use the maieutic method where they ask you expected questions to lead you to the right outcome. You will realise the truth you always knew deep inside. It should work like this.

pervertedjester · Answer

At first it's like  Then it becomes this  To the second I've never liked zombie docs and they've never been helpful.

madhatters4 · Answer

really depends on the type of therapists. different therapists have different approaches. but you should expect to be asked personal questions. it's really the way they get to the root of any issues

i do think therapists can be helpful. but it depends on the therapist and how much you work with them

Dubhlann · Answer

Yes they are.

I'm seeing one now. And you should talk to your therapist about whatever is troubling you. You should do it with your mom first, and then later sessions alone so you can be free to open up honestly.

If you're not honest with the therapist... you shouldn't go.

dogbert444 · Answer

Take the lead from the therapist. The first session is usually a "getting-to-know-each-other" session. Just general chat about you, about your school life, hobbies atc. it's a trust building time. They should not go straight into deep sexual and psychological analysis for some while. Once you can trust the therapist, you will be able to open up more easily. This is about YOU, so say exactly how things are.

Good luck with it. I'm starting something similar on 2nd March. We can swap notes!

Intraluminal · Answer

You're 20, so your sessions are completely private. No one will know what you talk about.

If you don't end up crying you're probably not talking about the things that are really bothering you. I frequently cry during a session because I'm talking about things tjat huet.

Dandeus · Answer

Unless you're there to address issues between you and your mom, she should not be in the session. Therapists aren't there to judge you, they're there to listen to you and help you. You should expect to talk about personal things, and if the therapist is any good, they'll know how to ease you into it.

HentaiMaster23 · Answer

My therapsits asked me personal question about my friends and stuff, and like whether I hear voices, or have tried too kill myself or cut myself, I pretty much just didn't answer any questions, and at one point I walked out, but my dad made me go back in, I hate therapists for some reason by the way, dunno why, I guess it's cuz someone I don't know is asking about my personal life, and I don't really think they help, but I guess in certain situations they can help

OrangeBoy · Answer

Hey Apple, i think it's good to give an opportunity to the therapist.
I run from people that tried to help me in the past, and... i dunno if i made the best option...

I think you can't avoid the cry moments... she will probably touch sensitive things, still it's her competence to make it less painfull day after day.

EmpatheticLady · Answer

A therapist is there to ask personal questions and listen to what's troubling you. You can talk about rainbows and bunnies if you want, but that probably won't help you and your depression. If you cry, you cry. It's not a problem, and you're definitely not the only one to have cried around him or her. Just be as open and honest as you can. You'll be fine.

oldanddecrepid · Answer

I think they are beneficial in the sense that they are trained to observe certain things and have an unobstructed view of the situation. They can see things we can't see, and their judgement is not clouded like friends and family members would be.

Overall, I think they can be of benefit to get things out of people that they tend to hide and really should talk about. I think they try to help you personally grow and mature. So I don't think seeing a therapist is a bad thing!

joeb73 · Answer

some are some are not, the firsst time dont expect much but the key is be open and honest. except in 2 ways never say you want to hurt your self or someone else. that will get you a 30 day trip to a ward

VirginiaBeachBum · Answer

You are 20. You have the right to not have your mother in there with you. And therapy is a safe place to discuss personal issues and to let out emotions. Just roll with it. They can be extremely helpful.

snowangle · Answer

Yes, I'm a huge fan of therapy. I see a counselor for my low self esteem and it's immensely helpful. When you go, you need to be 100% authentic. It'll be fine!

AzureGirl · Answer

When I went to one it helped me. The first day should generally be just getting to know each other, kind of like an ice breaker of sorts. At least that's how it was for me.

Hollywood-Glam · Answer

I have went to different therapists before. Therapists usually make the client comfortable. Even if they do ask you personal questions, don't worry because they will keep it a secret. They'll remain professional and won't react negatively to anything you have to tell them.
There is nothing to expect when going to a therapists, so just stay relaxed and don't be nervous. As for being helpful, it really depends. Some therapists are more helpful than others.

KittyKlip · Answer

They usually ask some standard questions about your mental health and why you are visiting them. Because you usually have to fill in forms about the reason for your visit.

SarahsSummer · Answer

Therapist only reason for existence is to discuss personal issues. That's how they help you. And yes, the y are helpful. But not if you don't open up.

Octavius · Answer

Well your mother isn't supposed to be in the room when you talk to the therapist so she shouldn't know if you're crying or not. Just talk about whatever they ask.

Toad-1 · Answer

use the first day as like an orientation, ask her questions about who she is, what her credentials are, has she done this long? Make it like an interview of sorts.

ShayanMortazavi1 · Answer

I never found therapists to be helpful personally, especially since they're getting paid for it so it's not really clear wether they actually care or not. I usually just talk to the trainers at my gym about my problems, and talking to you isn't what they're getting paid for so you can be sure that they actually care. I'm at the gym 5 hours a day, 6 days a week, so there's none of that hassle about setting appointments. I think you should do that instead.

JamesDylan1990 · Answer

When I went at 16

I just cracked open my heart and said everything j couldn't say in front of my family

My problems with my dad and mom
My brother
School stuff
Depression over cerebral, palsy
Other family stuff

archiz · Answer

nope. I have tried it once... meh... my mum is my best therapist. and of course sports. how did it end up carmen?

Youngm0ney · Answer

I guess it depends on the reason you are seeing a therapist. For me I've been forced to see one and it didn't help me at all. It actually made things worse for me and just passed me off so I stopped going

Azara · Answer

what does your mom have to do with it. you are 20. the therapist is legally bound to confidentiality.  also it goes however you want it to go. its 'your' session. they work for you.

DiogoRibeiro · Answer

Therapy is very helpful. In fact, I think everyone should do it for a while.

To be honest, talk about what bothers you. If he or she is skillful, they'll be able to get something out of you and help. Just relax.

Good luck. ;)

RJGraveyTrain · Answer

They were helpful to me. They take their time and work at your pace and comfort level, but you will have to open eventually or you'll defeat the purpose of going.

blondfrog · Answer

Whatever you feel like, but if you can't help the therapist then they can't help you. Help them help you.

Waffles731 · Answer

I'm walking proof that seeing a therapist or a psychologist can work. They never made me talk about anything I wasn't comfortable with.

Prof_Don · Answer

I say be completely open and transparent, when asked a question be FULLY open and don't hold anything back.

douride2 · Answer

I went to one once I swear he had more problems then I did.

Bea123 · Answer

nope they are scum jk jk i really dont know they could probably help with whatever it is though thats why they have a job :P

Yanoa_Yanza · Answer

Talk about life, everything, your problems and they will listen and give you advice or something

far2gud4u · Answer

In my experience if you do not know why you are going you will get nothing from it...

Chief16 · Answer

Just be cooperative. That's simply the best way to make progress. Crying is ok. Its perfectly fine. You're bound to do it sometime.

palek · Answer

I think most male the-rapists are lecherous ninnies looking for insecure and vulnerable women to grope.

xslope · Answer

Never been at a therapist, probably should have, and don't know if I could be honest and open with one (that is required for it to work).

OrdinaryGentleman · Answer

In my case no. However in most others cases yes they are very helpful. You will cry and be unhappy, thats an essential part of therapy, there is no getting around that.

LyssaNicole · Answer

its only helpful and works if you are honest with your therapist and, if you take the advice he or she gives to you

TheOldMan59 · Answer

You can talk a out whatever it is that you want to talk about. The therapist doesn't know what your personal issues are.

BellePepper · Answer

Yay! Good for you! I hope it went really well for you :)

danzeen · Answer

therapy and psychiatry are nonsense.

orphan · Answer

ask him questions. it's what i did.

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