Why are hotlines such sh*t?

[beebetree25]

So basically I called a hotline when I was feeling particularly bad, not suicidal and the person I got was so non chalant... that I felt I couldn't really be open and tell her all my issues..

I was calm , not crying.. but its like she was pretty much silent... and it just made me like wow..

So I ended up calling a friend and she was better help... That lady , what little she said is something my brother could have told me and he's 9.

And my other friend said when he called a guy just told him to call a hospital, and I'm like, so why call you in the first damn place..

and my friend said at her school a counselor made her feel bad about the problems she did have and I'm like.. damn..

I takes a lot for someone to admit to these problems and foe you to just brush them off like that is crazy... Nonetheless I was appalled... like if Iwere really suicidal, that would have been my damn ass..

so , what has you experience been like if you used a hotline share your experiences :)

yes I've called a hotline

no i haven't called a hotline

Updates

+1 y

Thanxs for everyone's insight

[lightbulb27]

I called my work oriented hotline when I was under duress. What a waste, your experience is like mine.

That's when I decided to get better and find other solutions. Friends and love in general help... just someone to listen and talk with.
Then start researching how to get yourself better... food, exercise, positive relationships, healthy thinking, sleep, meditation, etc.. etc..

I think the problem is probably lawyers (risk of saying something wrong... just trying to find out if you are suicidal), lack of $ to pay people skilled enough.

Find a good counselor helps as well... again... someone to talk to who gets you and can help you navigate around your issues and work on them.

[beebetree25]

you're right, it was a waste of damn time... im glad I had my friend to talk to.

And yah I need to make changes in my life.

[lightbulb27]

One of the best lessons I got from it was to take responsibility and control of my mental health. That was valuable for the rest of my life. I still reach out for help from counselor at times and friends for perspective... I don't know everything and it is hard to see your own issues sometimes. But take responsibility, and work at improving your life, will help. Jesus is there to help.

Thanks for mho!

[Sexualchrist]

Because the people on those hotlines are actually not allowed to empathize with you because it might solidify your want to end it all so they pretty much just don't know what to do.

[beebetree25]

Really well her non chalantness didn't help either.. if I were suicidal.. it could have very well ended right then and there... thats the chilling part for me.

[Sexualchrist]

They're stupid. The best thing to do in these situations is talk to your doctor.

[beebetree25]

Yeah ur right

[dancingonvenus]

You can try using this app called 7 Cups (the website is 7 Cups of Tea). It connects you with a person online that you can just vent to and they have to take a test before they're allowed to become a listener so most of them are super helpful! I've tried it multiple times and it has seriously helped me through a lot. I'm sorry but I've never called a hotline so I can't comment on my experience.

[beebetree25]

Thank you.. ill chef them out

[Likes2drive]

No but that's pathetic if that's all they do

[beebetree25]

It is.