How do I love myself?

[Anonymous]

I hate myself and I think I mess everything in my life up. I wish I could just give up and throw my life away sometimes.

[Idonthaveausername]

Picture yourself as you want to be and be honest with yourself about why you're not her. Instead of taking it out in a negative way, make a plan of how to get there. Simple, achievable steps are better. It's easier to walk up a staircase than climb a mountain. If you need help and don't know where to start, then ask a friend.

If your dream you is financially independent (that was me and I became that over a year ago) then start by getting a job. If you already have a job, then you're already on the first step. Then work harder to get a raise. If that isn't working out, then get another job.

Make a list of all the things you like about yourself. If you honestly can't find any, then ask someone you trust to tell you something they admire about you. Write them all down in a box and add something to it everyday. Open it when you're feeling really down to remind yourself that you have redeaming qualities too.

If you need someone to talk to, you can message me. Crying about yourself on the internet only worsens your attention -seeking behavior and makes you feel worse when you don't receive what you need from it.

[Asker]

Thanks

[Idonthaveausername]

You're welcome.

I used to hate myself until I realized I didn't hate myself, just my life. When I created the life that I wanted myself (and I set a reasonable goal) I stopped hating myself. As I got further and further towards my goal, I had more and more things to like about myself.

I've said this before to people who have taken my advice and improved their situations: No one is going to make you happy. You have to make yourself happy.

[MaiNameIsSunshine]

See a psychologist. I see one and it's great 👍🏻. Going to see one doesn't make you crazy, it means you're smart because you are seeking help when you need it 🙃

[Princeofanons]

You need someone to talk to and maybe professionally.

[kambo_trick3y]

Lots, and lots of hard work and goals.

[BellePepper]

Getting into see a therapist and doctor should be your number one priority.

[relaxrelax]

its okay i love you random person
who probably hates me lol

[Idonthaveausername]

Hey sorry to break it to you, but saying something like this can sometimes make it worse for someone in a bad situation. Hearing teachers and other kid's parents tell me they cared about me growing up only made me angrier and more upset because I knew my parents didn't. It took me a lot and a long time to get over it and realize they're mentally ill and their mental illness is something I don't need in my life.

I know you have good intentions and I don't want you to think it's good to completely ignore this kind of stuff, but the reason why people hate you when you say this is because it feels like pouring salt in an open wound.

[relaxrelax]

@Idonthaveausername

everyone has there issues
its about handling those issues
and here is the rule book

https://kingofwallpapers.com/bible/bible-021.jpg

[Idonthaveausername]

Not when your asshole father is a preacher. Don't even start with this one.

[Asker]

Im an atheist and its going to stay that way...

[iawetsa]

there is always a way if you r committed to find one