Do you think Depression is for pussies?

[Anonymous]

So i have been depressed for about 2 years. and im pretty sure depression is just a sign that your life is not the way it meant to be and your life choices have screwed you. and anyone not willing to change and is going straight onto anti depressants is in fact a pussy. having depression does mean you are a pussy, just not being willing do deal with it. i can agree that i am in fact a big pussy so it doesn't bother me. those who commit suicide, (depending on reason) were probably too weak to survive anyways. I think suicide needs to be decriminalized so those who are too weak to live should self exterminate for the sake of natural selection. I've been off and on anti depressants and i can say that they are just a bandaid solution to a bigger problem. problems im too weak to do anything about. fixing your life is usually a slow process that can take years but it is doable. and if you aren't willing to make a change, then life doesn't get better. so end it, since you can replaced. just another cog in the machine right?

[Anonymous]

No. People have depression for different reasons. For some there may have been a direct event that triggered it, for some it may be some hormonal imbalance and for others a combination or something else. There isn't always something you can do about it. If you have tried to get better and it doesn't happen it's not your fault. It doesn't mean you're a pussy. It's an illness. Just like people who get cancer aren't pussies because they got cancer or didn't survive it. I do however agree that people should have the right to assisted suicide if that's what they want. Not for the same reason as you though. I simply don't think people should have to choose between living a horrible life they don't want to live, where everyday is a living hell, and killing themselves in painful, scary, messy ways that might not even kill them but instead leave them with permanent physical damage, be it scares, brain damage, liver damage or whatever else. People put sick or injured animals to sleep with the argument that it's cruel to let them suffer, yet they do everything they can to not let a human who is in terrible psychological, and maybe physical, pain every day die even when that's what the people in question want. Humans who suffer can talk and communicate their wishes to die, animals can not, yet humans are not allowed to die but animals are. Yeah, animals and humans aren't really the same but the argument still stands. This is what I think anyway. I think people should have the right to get help to die in peaceful, safe, painless ways if that is what they really want.

[Blitzkrieger]

So nihilistic. Its not the world view i have. I know what depression is like, you can't toughen it out. It requires happiness to overcome it. Our ancestors have faced many demons and prevailed, depression is just the another demon in another form. It is the enemy within that must be defeated. Suicide is the notion that we need to die to be set free of our pain, but really only a little part of us needs to die. The part that wants us to fail. The part that is slowly killing us, the part that is fed by the decadence of society, the degeneration of our spirit. It is a disease, a mental illness which dies by loving ourselves and accepting ourselves and rejecting the materialistic decadent cancerous way of thinking which only wants us to fill a void. Filling the void with materialistic vices, distractions, mindless entertainment, wanting more likes on a picture. We must find meaningful ways of living, we need self fulfilment. No material vice can grant us that but acceptance and an ethos of empathy can. Empathy for ourselves. Love is the bond which binds people together, be it in war with your comdrades or in a relationship with a partner. But how can we form relationships with one another if the relationship with ourselves has been neglected for so long? Work towards self improvement one little step at a time and love yourself.

[Blitzkrieger]

Lol thanks for the MHO.

[TheInvisibleMan]

As a depressed guy, there are things in my life that I can do nothing about, and they are making me depressed. So no, its not always the case. As fir suicide, who cares if its legal or not, nobody goes "i wanna kill myself, but im not going to since its a crime". I mean you can't be punished in any way

[Asker]

i think it should be legalized so that way business or even the state can open up suicide booths or machines so people can do it in a painless way.

[Asker]

also what things can you not control?

[TheInvisibleMan]

Actually I think they should be used for tests on humans. They are gonna die anyway and this way they would help science develop A LOT. As for the things I can't control, believe it or not: girls. I never had even a kiss while all my friends have been sexually active for years. The thing is I tried literally everything possible and never had any results. And I have a really high desire and sex drive so I can't let it go

[Asker]

Well I hate to break it to you but you can get a girlfriend. Actually that shouldn't be sad that should good news right? I'm guessing confidence is an issue so I would suggest working on that first. I would say to start by working on your physical health so start working out and eating right. On top of that, exercise your courage muscle. What's scary? Sky diving? Paintball? Talking to a girl? Start really small and eventually you will become more and more courageous and it can help you when talking to girls. Find something you are passionate about and work on it. Girls love guys who have a passion. It's a long process but it is in fact doable self improvement is the key to being happier. Good luck!

[TheInvisibleMan]

You are not listening. As I said, I tried everything. I don't have confidence issues. I am muscular, I used to train 2 sports and 2 marial arts professionally, I trained 1 on my own (but went to competitions and won shit), I also did a little bodybuilding. As for passions, I play guitar, cook, draw, do spray paint art etc. So passions and lifestyle aren't a problem either. Trust me, I tried everything, there is no hope for me to ever be with any girl

[Asker]

and why is that?

[TheInvisibleMan]

Girls simply do not want to be with me

[Asker]

When you can't find the right girl, you have to become the right man. Become the kind of guy that will attract the kind of girl you want.

[TheInvisibleMan]

You still don't get it. Its not that I can't get a certain type of a girl. I can't get ANY girl on this planet. And based on the things I listed above you can see I have been working on myself for years.

[Asker]

why aren't girls into you? are you just socially awkward? or you a jerk? well i dont know whatever the case, im going to recommend reading the book 'Models' by Mark Manson. its a really good book on how to attract women with honesty.

[TheInvisibleMan]

Im not awkward or any kind of a weirdo. i have a social life, as in i have friends and i go out. i also read a bunch of books on seducing women. of course, it didn't help. as I told you in the beginning - there is nothing I can do to change that.

[Asker]

any idea at all why girls dont like you? like have you lost your virginity?

[TheInvisibleMan]

No, I never had even a kiss in my life. I don't know why they don't like me

[Asker]

hmm i dont know what to tell ya. try to be more observant of how you act and see if there is anything going on. sometimes its things we dont even notice

[Naruse]

This is literally on point. We live in a capitalist society where we define someone's worth by their effectiveness as a worker, being immobilised by mental illness just make you unproductive and ergo worthless in terms of societal value. We aren't going to provide help to most who suffer with depression unless they can pay out the ass for it so euthanasia really is the next most reasonable response. Empathy by itself with no systemic structured response just makes the people in question come off as fake and performative. We don't really give a fuck it's just bullshit to make bleeding hearts get through the rest of their day. The only thing I really disagree with is the idea that those who follow through on killing themselves are pussies, they aren't those of us who lose the nerve or can't finish, we're the ones truly deserving of contempt.

[KeiranByrne]

Sounds like he's saying he'd be willing to use protection for you, implying that he has strong feelings for you because he would not normally agree to this for any other girl.

[NJ_Casanova]

No... I think everyone gets depressed sooner or later. I've never taken any anti-depressants so I don't know if they actually work. Alcohol is only a temporary fix.

[Anonymous]

No, depression is something that is hard to control, especially for me. If depression makes us pussies, then oh well. Hopefully it will be leave us alone, sometime.
"The bravest thing I've done is choose to live after wanting myself dead."
It's hard living with depression, but it can be managed well.

[maiez]

Screw depression it can happen to anyone. It is something serious that affects someones whole life and it sucks

[dae07102]

Look man, depression is only depression if you let it control you.