So, I'm thinking about having my first time with this guy I'm close to and although I've been working out. I'm not where I want to be weight wise. Technically, my weight itself isn't bad but my waist could be smaller and I could be more toned.
I have a belly pudge and even though it's not super bad, it's not like beer belly or anything. (It's similar to the pictures below.) I'm kind of worried he'll find it unattractive when we have sex.
So I think I might push it off my first time until I'm where I want to be. Am I being silly or?
If you’re not confident about your body, you won’t enjoy the sex. That’s not to say that the belly pudge is necessarily what you should be working on. Working on your confidence could be just as productive in making you more secure. You will never be perfect, so if you have insecurities with your appearance, you’ll probably feel uncomfortable regardless of how much work you put in to make yourself look good.
I wouldn't mind it honestly. The amount of belly in the pic, I wouldn't even notice, and even if it's a bit more, it's not gonna be a problem for me. Not everyone has the time to meticulously count calories and control their diet and workout everyday to have ripped abs and you don't need any of that to be attractive to someone.
Some women just make up stuff to be worried about.
Small minded folks will make fun of you no matter what. This brother has been married to this woman for over 14 years, has two kids with her and could not be happier.
This couple is famous. She has an instagram and facebook account. And I am certain if you give up the life of an internet troll, she would happily get on the phone to help you with your self-confidence issues.
I'm no TROLL. I'm looking at the face color. It looks fake. The additional photo you show is clearly real. Where is that self-confidence attack shit coming from, dude? The position of her body, however, makes the additional photo of her look COMPLETELY different than the photo you've added. I realize you have to love the body you have as it is. That is what positivity is about. She has chosen to do this, and is satisfied with how she looks. I still don't think the first photo is flattering, yet the second IS. It's simply my opinion. I'm glad her husband loves her body as is and she has learned to accept it with its flaws. We all need to be in that place. As long as she is healthy, that is all that matters.
@Screenwriter You are no troll? You could have fooled me with that quip about me using photoshop. Jasmine Owens is quite famous. A casual search on the net would have revealed a truckload of info about her.
The rest of your post is just drivel.
The point is, there are plenty of guys who aren't into looks. They just want a woman who treats them nice, loves sex, and provides real intimacy.
Before his current mate, Idris and I had similar tastes.
Quip wasn't about YOU. I thought it LOOKED photoshopped. I didn't ACCUSE YOU of ANYTHING. What I said was genuine. I'm sorry that she felt so badly about herself at one time, and am glad she's gotten to a good place with herself through her husband's love.. Sorry you think honesty is drivel.
And OF COURSE intimacy, that includes love, sex and compatibility, is what most people want. There's nothing wrong with these women's looks in their own eyes and their SO's. YOU are the one who says some men "don't care about looks," as if to say these women aren't attractive. I didin't say they weren't attractive. They aren't attractive to ME, but I'm a heterosexual woman and I'm not attracted to women of any shape or size. What's attractive always is a person who loves and takes care of themself and their loved ones. Everything else is a matter of taste and preference. They're clearly attractive to their mates. Everyone has different tastes. Most people have preferences.
I didn't miss. I get that you're saying some men don't care that a woman is some socially standard size or shape. Their values are focused on other qualities. There are women who are the same way. You see these couples all the time. Good for them. I have defended Lizzo's wanting to be who SHE is to a guy who was shaming her on GAG and wouldn't give it up. I'm not shaming this woman, her choices or her spouse's choice. I can't know who everyone is whose picture is posted, and just because I made an error from a photo of this woman that was an unflattering shot and badly lit, there's no need to come down on me. Never said YOU photoshopped it... that was YOUR error. But you do you! Regards.
There is actually a gal (a married friend, darn it) in church who has a touch of pudge/fupa and I don't think she realizes just how enticing (I'm trying to use words other than just "HOT") she is bending down to pick-up boxes at the church food pantry.
Unless there is something wrong with your guy, he will not expect your body to be perfect. Women worry too much about how their bodies look. When a guy gets horney, gets hard, and gets your clothes off, he's not worried about your belly. He's enjoying your boobs, ass and pussy. No guy ever got ready to slide it in, then changed his mind, because her tummy wasn't flat.
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Most men dont care of a bit of fat. I personally love a bit of fat on my stomach. It's why I dont worry about ab workouts at the gym. I think it looks healthy and I love the look it gives me.
Unless your goal is to have flat flat stomach and or abs, then it shouldn't be an issue. Some men love it cause it gives a "soft" look and a lowkey mama look, which a lot of men love as well.
I totally understand. I personally wouldn't reject a woman for that. But I know what you mean about wanting to be your best self before putting yourself out there.
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