How do you stop ruminating?

[hsshannah96]

I have a continual running track in my brain constantly on the daily that goes “gotta get a boyfriend, gotta have kids”
how do I get rid of it... I’m an aspie and this has been extremely worsening as I age. maybe it’s bad now because I’m at home doing nothing more often due to Covid
help! tnanks

[Andres77]

I listen to music in foreign languages that I don't understand.
My brain tries to figure it out while the rest of me is just enjoying the vibration of my truck... so the intrusive thoughts are dominated by my environment. If I listen to songs I understand then my brain tells me "since I already understand this and I know what's coming next... I'll start thinking about that other stuff again."

Aspie here as well...

[DaveToo]

You need to find something to occupy your brain and take it off what you have been doing. Find a word game or an online game that is challenging. You're 24 and that's an age with all women that they start thinking they must have a man, they must have a home, they must have a child. It's not just you.

[hsshannah96]

I try but it feels like I still do it
It’s less but I still do it with the games
But I’ll try

[DaveToo]

My mind never shuts down. Either I have a project I need to construct in my head before I attempt to do it, or I have a song stuck in my head for days. "Green Beret" was the one for the past week. I finally broke out of that one when I did a song this past Sunday. That's why I keep on top of the news and run a blog on Facebook that is primarily political and social justice.

[hsshannah96]

Also I want multiple kids
My mom struggled through infertility for 6 years before having me, her only kid

[hsshannah96]

Started trying at 35

[hsshannah96]

That can be genetic

[DaveToo]

You CAN have a fertility test to determine how fertile you actually are.

[Stoner710]

do you get drunk you smoke a lot of weed and you find something else to do. me i've choice politics.

By the way is that a picture of you on your other question yourself why are guys dumping you,

[hsshannah96]

No it isn’t not on this post
That’s not me

[awebee]

It's definitely a bit of the covid crazies.. I miss having a girlfriend too and honestly companionship factor is largely out weighing sex.. lack of social gathering may will help with our tendencies to be selfish, and realize our partners are important to us

[exitseven]

The pandemic has screwed up a lot of people. Myself included.
Try to pick one thing and work towards it. Find something that is attainable in the short to medium term. You will feel better and feel better about your life.

[hsshannah96]

I don’t have anything I need to work towards

[hsshannah96]

Or I totally would

[exitseven]

What do you ruminate about?

[hsshannah96]

My future

[ohshee]

There's your answer right there you locked up you need some fresh air you go for a brisk walk I just get some fresh air every day your mind will clear everything will get better

[JamieLoves]

Sometimes it requires medication, when your mind can’t stop racing.. I can stop it at night, to fall asleep using TM.. transcendental meditation.

[COMMODOREII]

Wow. Not sure. TV helps a bit. Lol