How can I stop thinking and distraction myself?

[Mia230]

Me and a guy I've been dating (7 months now) is on iffy terms all I've asked for is communication, flowers and be more attentive but haven't gotten neither. I asked him how did he feel about us and he said he has to show more attention spend time etc but ever since , communication has gotten worse so now we're not talking much like before but I miss him😔 can't stop thinking about him, I cried all mfn night , what do I do?

[Oliverlogan263]

Oh sis, I know the feels of missing someone who makes you all confused and sad. It's the worst when they have you hoping and nothing changes! 😔

First things first, tomorrow call up your girlfriends for a spa day ASAP. Get those manicures, facials, you name it! Treat yo self to feel better.

Also make a playlist of your fave jamz that build you up - Britney, Beyonce, whateva gets you dancing and not thinking. Blast that music any time sad thoughts creep in!

Use the time you'd usually text him to journal instead. Write out all your feelings so they're not just swirling in your head. Burning the journal afterwards can bring extra closure, I heard.

Next, hit up your hobbies hardcore! Whether it's gym, games, crafts, diving into a good project takes your mind off completely.

Lastly, match his energy sis. If he's not putting in the effort to talk and fix things, you don't owe him any more tears either. Hold your head high - keep it pushing and staying busy being your best self!

If he wanna see you, he knows where to find you. Otherwise drop that zero and go find your hero who treats you right! You deserve way more than "iffy terms," ok? Now go glow up, girl! We got this 💕

[NathanDavis]

find a better partner...

one that is worth thinking about all night

with a smile, though... this one right now is not worth none of that

[Mia230]

Yeah I figured that , it hurts tho

[NathanDavis]

yes, it does... sorry to hear about that

but, it will fade, the hurt... and better will come, that is always worth (=

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Your question is "How can I stop thinking and distract myself?" I think you might want to work on other, non-romantic relationships, and concentrate on building yourself a good support network of people. Have coffee with friends, spend time with some older people you respect and like. It seems like you are relying entirely on your boyfriend for affirmation and emotional support. He is unlikely to be able to give you what you need in that area. During this time when the relationship is a bit wobbly, start investing in other relationships and doing some other things, maybe even some educational options or volunteering. It will help you not appear so clingy and desperate, and it will help distract you.

That said, I'm really sorry you are dealing with this. It is so hard when you are in this uncertain space in a relationship. You are hurting, and that is awful. Hugs to you, girl!

[Mia230]

Yeah you are right unfortunately I don't have any friends so that maybe also part of it , I may have to do things solo or like you said volunteer

[Mia230]

Thanks by the way I hope I can overcome this , it happens everytime

[Jennz6]

Sorry honey I’m not sure what you can do

[Mia230]

😔 I wish you did

[Mia230]

*were

[Jennz6]

@Mia230 did you try to make him jealous?

[Jennz6]

@Mia230 hang out with some guys

[Mia230]

If only I knew any , I wish