If you had a son, what would be most difficult to accept?

[Alexeiv]

Let's say you have a son, what would be the biggest issue if it came up?

*Look at poll.

He seriously dates and considers marrying a woman of a vastly different culture

He seriously dates and considers marrying a woman of a vastly different class ( ie, welfare or lavishly exclusive)

He turns out homosexual

He turns out to have psychological problems (split personality, etc) that impedes his relationship with you

He pursues a career you abhor

[cun7n1nja]

I voted D, only because it would be the most difficult for me personally to handle. Everything else is trivial in comparison, lol, wouldn't even bat an eye. Whereas psychological problems could have a severely negative effect on the child and their development and happiness from an early age. Having a couple related issues myself, and having a boyfriend and multiple acquaintances with schizophrenia... I know what it's like, and I know that it can be hard to deal with. Both personally, and in dealing with others. So I'm picturing what it would be like for the child, how they would feel and perceive things, and how I and others would handle the issues they have.

[Alexeiv]

The firs two options are a bit of a tester for the voters but your kid pursuing a career you hate? You wouldn't bat an eyelash?

Let's say you love the environment and your kid pursues a career that is detrimental to the environment, hell let's say he becomes a lawyer who works for a major corporation and covers/defends their obvious misdoings.

This would not bother you? Say your kid is the coordinator of a pyramid scheme that basically robs people, you'd be fine with it?

[cun7n1nja]

Hmm, well that IS a good point, I guess I didn't think about that one too in depth. That would certainly be difficult, and potentially entering dangerous love-them-but-don't-LIKE-them territory, which is something I really want no part of. That would bother me a lot.

I still vote for D though, just because of how early on it would be likely to start effecting the child.

[rachiee]

None of those would be an issue at all except for his mental health issue. I want my kids to be happy in life. As long as they're safe and smart about their decisions, nothing would bother me. The mental health issue is different though, because that's something that affects them negatively.

[Alexeiv]

I find this answer to be all too common for those who have little actual experience with children, and I could be wrong with you, but that answer strikes me that you'd be happy your kid is out of your hair doing his own crap. With the way society works now, you will be a significant part of your kid's life until his/her mid 20s.

[rachiee]

Well you're definitely wrong and assuming things about me based off an entry online that is barely a paragraph. As long as my kids are happy and living their life then that's all that matters to me. I'm going to be there for them regardless because I'm their mother but I'm not going to tell them to not be with someone based on culture or race or gender, that would be pathetic of me to do. And if you're the type of person who would do that then I send my apologizes to your (future?) children.

[Alexeiv]

Pretty condescending of you to feel sorry for my future kids as I would give them all the tools to succeed, the little things like seeing a woman who's a religious maniac and would change my son's life significantly, I'd care.

[dll16634]

Had To go C on this one. I am a straight guy obviously, and I am cool with the gay guys that I know in my city.

I just don't have the understanding of why some people are homosexuals that would let me be okay with his choice.

I would still love my kid I'm sure but I would fight tooth and nail to change him.

[RedThread78]

well you didn't make a conscious "choice" to like girls did you? It is the same way for most gay people trying to change them just makes them feel disgusting and gross about who they are as a person. I know because I have a close gay friend.

[dll16634]

Yea but science tells us that we like girls because our instinct is to reproduce, no matter how many times a couple of guys go at they aren't making a baby.

So no I made an "instinctual choice" to like girls because P + V = BABY. I wouldn't Rip my kid for it, just make sure he isn't just being curious or something.

[Cailleach]

Homosexuals don't choose to be homosexual. It's just how they were born.

[dll16634]

I don't Know Cailleeach I think it might just be all the red dye number 3, but I'm sure you know everything there is to know and will reply with another answer of factual genius that puts science to shame.

[Tentacle_Therapist]

So if it's unbeatable instinct that makes men want girls, because they can have babies, does that mean that men who find out their girlfriend/wife is infertile, they'd suddenly lose attraction? It's really not as simple as you think it is, lol :P

[dll16634]

no robo haha, just saying that our instinctual attractions to women come from wanting to mate with them. I doubt my d*** could understand or care if I told him my girl was infertile.

[KarKingJack]

I chose E, because in terms of things like military, or being the kind of person who goes around gang-mobbing peadophiles, I wouldn't feel too good about that. As much as I believe in Ultimate Acceptance, it'd still bother me. Same would go for daughter though.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I'd be saddest and most concerned about D, the rest I wouldn't care about. My parents did something right and helped me learn about how race, sex, career doesn't matter so much as they work hard and are happy with their lives.

[Anonymous]

None of those would bother me other than a mental health problem, because I know how difficult that can be on someone.

My brother has schizophrenia and it has a really negative impact on his life and sometimes it causes a lot of strain on our relationship.

[Cailleach]

I wouldn't have a problem with any of those things. Though, if he did have mental problems I would be worried about him.

[RedThread78]

None of those really bothers me.. Although dealing with psychological problems can be a tough road.. I know about that personally.

[Tentacle_Therapist]

D, with E as a close runner-up for me. A, B and C are nothing to worry about. :)

[NerdInDenial]

If he becomes a serial killer, that would be pretty hard to accept.

[SnackG]

D is the only one I see possibly bothering me. Not in an "I hate my son." way, but like "This is really hard and it sucks." kind of way.

[Missy706]

Being that I have a son so when he grows up I would love and accept him regardless of all.

[moloz]

Why just sons and not daughters?

[Alexeiv]

Daughters are a different case, regardless of our equality culture sons and daughters are not the same.

[moloz]

Never disagreed, in fact I would have a much bigger list for my daughter than for my son, lol. I voted E btw.

[Alexeiv]

Good man, that'd be my vote as well. It means my son is actively motivated to succeed in what I hate. Worse to me than having a child with social problems who I'd still love as a person. I could see my kid essentially causing me to hate what he does for a living.

[moloz]

My son would have my blood, therefore I'd teach him everything I know and make him understand he has the potential to become better than I will ever be.

Seeing him go to the military or study politics/economy would break my heart, but I'll accept it eventually. The only thing I can do beyond that point is to hope he shares my idealism.

[MoonStruck23]

i wouldn't have a prob to accept any of them...