If you were to have children, how would you raise them?

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TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

I don't want any, but if i did:
1. Reading and creative art lessons at age 2.
2. Musical instrument, science, and coding lessons at age 6
3. Home schooling for all of school, with video game breaks.
4. Full college scolarships to whatever trades they fancy.
5. No shitty jobs, they would join the family business either for good, or until they find another passion they prefer.
6. I would never kick them out, spank them, or otherwise take an authoritarian approach.
7. I'd teach them about science, ecology, technology, natural history, chemistry, money, and how to get what they want in life, and I would never lie to them or expect them to take my word for anything, I'd also show them at a young age why religions are false, and how santa and all the other crap is rotting minds.
8. I'd make sure that they built social networks so they have a shot at finding an SO and business opportunities as an adult.
9. Only the best nutrition, and I'd teach them how to prepare chef quality meals and how to understand their own health.

Basically I'd take the rich person approach.

DownIndaDumpz · Accepted Answer

freedom, they can do what they like, i dont believe in the jailcell of society and all these dumb rules, they can sleep whenever they like, u dont see dogs parents telling em when to sleep,
man i use to hate how my mum forced me into my room to sleep at around 7 o clock in summer when it didn't get dark til like 11, and i wasn't tired at all, she didn't even give me a games console or something, i basicially had to lay awake trying to sleep for like 5hrs, it was torture in the form of boredom, every single fukin day,
thats why if i had kids they can go out whenever they want, do whatever they want,
ofcourse ima try n keep n safe n tell em n watch over them so no predator kidnaps em or shit like that, but i will give them freedom and let them choose to live their life how they want,
i also wouldn't be one of those neglecting parents that jus sits at home, il play with em n take em to park n shit, but yeah, i jus really hate restriction, and i won't force them to study or do homework either, thats their choice

Chaneille · Accepted Answer

Let them know from a very young age that education is not the key to success and success isn't defined by riches/wealth. Create an environment where they are free to talk to me about anything. Allow them to make their own decisions & choices and let them learn their own lessons. I think the greatest fear parents is that their children will make the same mistakes they did when they were young & honestly that rarely happens. I want my children to learnt to not differentiate between people , we are all of the same species. I'd teach them not to discriminate against anyone regardless of their race or religion.

I wouldn't hit my kids because I grew up being beaten everytime I did something wrong and it never made me better , it just created this resentment inside me because I'm just someone who doesn't like having my body touched or abused.

I honestly just my children to grow up in a safe , loving and comfortable home with both parents.

Lucy68 · Accepted Answer

I would raise my children to be kindhearted and sweet individuals. I would raise them to love and know about God and his son Jesus Christ. I would raise my children to be independent even though I'll be a little overprotective. When they become teenagers (and I know people aren't going to agree with me on this and som will say it's impossible) that's when I'll have to be mom and friend, and the reason you want your child (especially around that time) to be okay and comfortable to talk to about anything no matter what it is and how uncomfortable it makes you feel I want them to be comfortable with me especially around that age. I'm going to try to raise them in a loving household (something I unfortunately didn't have growing up). I want my children to be happy and I hope they can grow up as happy and kindhearted individuals.

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Well, I don't want them, but if I did, I'd be quite strict, I think.

Yeah, they can have fun and all, but I don't want to be that kind of parent that has his kids running around screaming in a supermarket or any public place, they should behave.

They will also be respectful, polite and have manners, even as kids.

When they get older, I'll be a bit more lenient with them, because whilst I'd definitely want them to be nice people, I don't want them to be pushovers who get used by others, as shown with some people I've known or just people who don't have their own opinions and views on things.

England4eva · Answer

I won’t have kids. I’m not maternal at all and have other ambitions for my life. However, if you have that material switch on, power to you cause they say it’s very rewarding if you have a mother/parent instinct.

Another thing, I just don’t like the way society has turned out and would want to shelter my imaginary child from how cruel this new way of life has become.

If I already had kids I’d definitely travel somewhere beautiful and remote to home school them, were they can make friends with native kids and learn to live of the land.

Anonymous · Answer

Build their confidence since they're little, raise respectful kids. Build them a routine, teach them to be organized, to help around the house, involve them in the kitchen so they learn about healthy food and how to prepare it (easier than it sounds, my mom did it), not buying them so much trash food but also not forbidding it. I wouldn't leave them with a nanny or someone who isn't their dad or a very trusted family member. I'll involve them into art or sports, whatever productive hobby they like. Won't allow them to use the internet or social media till it's inevitable, and when I allow them it'll be under supervision, with restrictions and with time limit, no cellphones till 17. If this gender thing keeps going strong on to those days (which I don't think) I wouldn't allow them to use hormones or get surgery.

Selena1987 · Answer

One of my ambitions for my children is to learn them at least 3 languages (preferably Spanish, English, French) and I’ll register them in language classes from the beginning of their lives
Music and painting classes should be begun at age 4 or 5.
They also have to study hard at school to learn their lessons well in order to be able to go to a appropriate college
Beside what I mentioned above, I’ll learn them to be a true human and have affectionate and kindness to other people, to know God and obey what he has wanted from us

SweetFyter · Answer

My first reaction to this question - I would raise them the way the Bible tells me to. Would I do it perfectly? Of course not, but I would try - really hard - because I believe that's the best way.

The one thing that I would say I'd do differently from my parents is - if I have both boy (s) and girl (s), I would have the same "rules" for all the kids. No different rule "because you're a boy" or "because you're a girl." Equality is important.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

I’m not an expert on child psychology so I would let them know they are loved, they should be careful who they trust, it’s important to be honest, and you must know not everyone is who they appear to be, also their value is determined by their compassion and hard work and not their facial beauty, and God expects them to forgive people but forgiving someone does not mean spending time with them.

fridge0 · Answer

I’m not sure. But I know I’d want them to have what I didn’t have and let them know they can ask me for help if they need it. I might be a bit similar to my parents and make sure they don’t grow up lazy lol. They’ll have to do chores and learn how to do their own laundry and wash dishes.

TwinkleLily5 · Answer

Teach them to have self confidence, self respect, allow them to be themselves and develop self love without first and foremost. Let them be kids and have as much fun as they can. Teach them responsibilities like chores and give them allowance, teach them to start saving money early. I would love my kids and do the best I can to make sure they are healthy, mentally healthy and happy.

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

Unlike how my mom raised me and my three siblings. Good thing I didn't become as entitled as two of them.

They're not going to get a phone until they're 16. Let alone any electronic. I'll buy them video games and consoles if they want them, but no easy-communicative device that they can carry around. I'm going to monitor their phones, such as creating them their first Gmail account.

Though, I'll just have to see for myself on how I'd raise my children in the future.

Alyssa_11 · Answer

To be confident and most importantly to be in an environment where they are LOVED. My parents are amazing but I grew up in a toxic environment and was constantly isolated by other family and friends. As an adult it’s given me low self esteem and I’m always scared of being isolated and feeling unloved. I want to give my kids all the love and confidence I never got.

LonelyFox · Answer

Love them unconditionally, always support them in whatever they want to achieve in life, make them laugh when their sad, play games and sport with them, be the shoulder for them to cry on when their down.. try to listen and help when I can..
Be strict and firm at times but also flexible and understanding.
I suppose I'd try raise them to be honest, loving and hardworking adults someday so they can pass that on to their kids..

Adam1978 · Answer

Strict but fair. Unless it's play time, I am in charge not the kids. The kids can lead the play aslong as they don't want to do something stupid.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

It's lovely to have an ideology. But when your 2 Yr old won't sit still, your 9 month old wants constant attention, you haven't slept properly for over 2 years and are physically drained, you do what you need to do to get through the day.

little_rose · Answer

I would probably just love them too much. I am just that kind of person. I tend to coddle kids a lot.

Nazgol · Answer

First and foremost I would raise them to bee polite to their elders & always say hi first. Not amused by the lack of if today! I'd raise them in a mostly conservative way as well as that's my beliefs & how I was raised to be

Anonymous · Answer

Can you be more specific with your question? I don't really know how to answer the question as stated.

exitseven · Answer

I never hit my kids because I wanted them to grow up non violent. I tried to raise my kids to be individuals and not be like everyone else.

Darine123 · Answer

I’ll find a good dad for my dad so he will be there for my kids!! And support on what they really want to do or be

bolverk · Answer

If I had school age children now I'd be home schooling they I have tutored a wide age range in the past, and I'd be raising them to be independent thinkers as I have done with my nieces and nephews.

Luopio27 · Answer

The world is so messed up that I dont even know how to prepare myself for the unknown and unpredictable decades to come with my 37 years of life experiance.

AviatorTom · Answer

I have 3 kids. They were raised to be independent and be considerate of others.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

With constant family therapy so they're not fucked up. Also, I'll encourage them and support them exploring different hobbies.

Deserter · Answer

To be nice but stand up for themselves. To have autonomy but also enough structure to grow as people. The rest kinda depends on the child, can't raise them all the same exact way, everyone is unique

SenseiSeptred · Answer

I would teach them over time their responsibilities among the buke social caste layer that they were born into.

Nagatoro · Answer

I wouldn't have them as I'm too much of a clusterfuck

toocoolforthis83 · Answer

Hopefully with both parents. I don't know why, but that has been the most important thing in my life. Not everyone sees the value in giving your children a strong family foundation.

Anonymous · Answer

Lots of love, fairness and consequences to actions. They are turning out better than me.

Iron_Man · Answer

I would raise them just like Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn were raised

Anonymous · Answer

Raise them to be business/career-centered and empaths. Also show them at a young age some sexy booty pics of my wife when she was partying and getting straightpiped by me and 10 inch big black carks

Prg11 · Answer

As good guys/girls, productive, obliged to work, responsible, but also genuinely happy

shadowvi · Answer

Make sure they would be straight and hide any gay propaganda from them.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

They will be mini versions of me

OddBeMe · Answer

Via adoption services.

whosnumber1 · Answer

with as much love as possible

kuladiamond · Answer

Very carefully

kitkills · Answer

In an orphanage.

JesseJayNeak · Answer

I’d raise to be God fearing, humble and respectful

GFloydWormFood · Answer

I would raise them to not be like the 13%ers.

SlothySlob · Answer

Currently? Badly.

Agape93 · Answer

I wouldn't.

Anonymous · Answer

with military discipline

HeartFullOfGlue · Answer

I'd raise them well

flirtatiousgirl · Answer

I don't want kids

UpdateGloomyNights_ · Answer

as a good muslim

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