Is anyone on here suffering from body dismorphia?

[Reesi]

What struggles do you have with it how do u cope with it? is it hard to be your self or the person who you want to be? do you feel like people hate u or mistreat you? do you feel stagnant? do you cry everyday day and how long have you been suffering?

[MCheetah]

Yeah. I've been told my medical professionals I have it. My issue is being a short shit and I loathe and despise it beyond all words. I had Precocious Puberty, meaning y body started puberty early, at age 8, but never fully completed it, so I stopped growing by age ten and have literally been the same height since then. I was tall-ish as a child at that age, but am now short (or "shortish") as an adult. I wrote a MyTake about it (several actually). My Experience Struggling with Depression, Body Dysmorphic Disorder, and Never Being "Good Enough"

I cope with it one day at a time. I'll literally never be the person I want to be because I can't have the body I was meant to have. I'll also never have love from a woman or acceptance because being short, I do not meet their standards. Yes, *some* women are willing to be with a guy their height or shorter than them, but they're very rare and tend to be gold diggers, sugar babies, or just using and exploiting the man anyway.

I certainly get mistreated by women all the time! Although men care less, some of them are still quick to mock me, usually really tall men, like 6'6"/197 cm and up. Pretty much my main life's goal; to fall in love and raise a (n adopted) family of kids, can never happen, because I don't meet women's standards. Yeah, I'm short, but even IF that wasn't an issue, I'm also ugly, dark-skinned, and overweight, all of which are also hard deterrents against most women in the world.

I actually literally did the math the other day and fond out my chances of having a loving woman; someone who would stick by my side and accept my fully as I am, is 0.00000093%. That's the actual literal number. That means there's only 7 women or less on the entire planet Earth who would be attracted to me and gladly be my partner. This isn't even taking into account if I would be attracted to them or if we would be compatible. This also isn't taking location into account; what if they all exist in rural China, where I'll never be able to meet them? What if they're all in some tiny villages in the third world, where I'll also never have a chance to know they exist? This is just my odds of finding women who would like the short-shit that I am.

I don't cry everyday. I have just given up hope. No woman wants to be with a man she's same height or taller than, whether in heels or barefooted. And unlike other men who are even shorter than I, I don't want to be with someone who doesn't love me, and will abuse or mistreat me, only because "that's the best I could get." That is NOT love. And I've tried that in my early 20s. Just being with someone who wants to try to exploit me, instead of just being with someone who would genuinely love me; out of the seven women in existence who could.

Because I literally never grew up, I discovered wasn't ever going to get my growth spurt at around age seventeen, since boys stop growing at eighteen. So if you must know, I spent twelve years in therapy; from age 17 to 31. But South Korea doesn't really have any English speaking therapists, so I haven't been with one for about three years now.
You just have to accept reality and the fact that you're always going to hate some things about yourself, especially if they prevent you from ever achieving happiness or self-worth. That's what I did.

I did get an e-book from someone on here. I haven't finished reading it though. Maybe it can help you more than it did me? It's called Retrain Your Brain: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy in 7 Weeks: A Workbook for Managing Depression and Anxiety. Maybe it might help SOMEONE on here?

On the social height chart, I'd be a D minus; almost an F.

I'm only 180 cm, by the way.

For reference, she's 6'2"/188 cm, but in high heels.

[Kaneki05]

Eh think i've been getting paranoid about my low weight recently and underweight like surely i need more fat to be healthy. But I don't know if that's Dismorphia or just a reasonable concern.

[mark000h]

If you feel like this, you need to get help and counseling. It doesn't go away by itself and can get tragic.

[DelayedMist]

Yeah, I have suffered with it. Like I don't like my big nose and weird hair sometimes.

[Reesi]

I have it for 14years now cried ever since

[DelayedMist]

I am sorry to hear that. I have started to realise that every single person on this earth have flaws. It could be anything. Everyone has been insecure about something when it comes to caring about their physical appearance.

[noohair]

I think that commercial advertising has made it common for both men and women. Probably more for women.

[emperor90]

Nope not at all