well not a bikini but a makeshift one lol I outgrew all my swimsuits in the last year. But I put on this to surprise my boyfriend and he had a terrible reaction. We had a few friends come over for a jacuzzi party and the second I came downstairs in this my boyfriend gave me a look and everyone froze. One of my friends came up to me and said, “ok we need to do something about this tummy.” She gently put her hand on my stomach and patted it and said we are getting you on Arbonne and all this is going away. I am very nervous Arbonne is only about 800 calories a day I’m nervous about all this and I don’t like being singled out.
I put on a bikini today and got a surprising reaction?
Okay, I won't dismiss your concern about being singled out, nobody wants that.
I've read your previous posts and I notice, you REALLY don't want to do this and that's fine.
Look, I wholeheartedly believe that if you lose weight, you do so for yourself and no one else. You're the most invested one here, so you decide Whether you want to and how you want to go about it (within healthy means)
That said, we live in reality, we can't separate from that. No matter how small or big, choices have consequences.
So you have to process and understand, if you don't make this move, major changes are coming in your life.
Based on what you've posted, you already know your boyfriend is gone. He didn't have to say any words, his body language gave it away.
Your friend probably thinks you have a good catch and doesn't want to see you lose him, but she clearly doesn't know you well enough because she wouldn't have approached the situation like she did if that were the case.
I don't know your boyfriend and I won't make him out to be an angel. But he does have standards and it's clear if you drop below that, he's going to be concerned.
If he didn't care or didn't believe you could do it, they wouldn't have had an intervention. He'd just drop or start cheating on you. He didn't do that.
So if you're not going to do this for yourself or loved ones, don't do it. We all have choices to make and you should make the one you are at peace with.
Just remember, peace has a price. Be safe and good luck.
As @highlyvolatile said.. 800 calories is not the answer 1400 should be about bare minimum especially if you want sustainable weight loss in the long term
As for your boyfriend and friends: not sure why they had the reaction they did. Firstly surely your boyfriend knows your body already? If not what they said isn’t very nice they could have been gentler about it and your boyfriend to support you.
As for diet: Light body recomp. Slight caloric deficit high in protein but also not cutting out any food groups and exercise few times a week. The key is sustainability long term if fat loss is the goal so you don’t end up starving on 800 cals then binging on cookies or something two weeks later after having enough
While your friends were insensitive and a bit mean about it (considering you're being objective and truthful here), wearing a bikini takes a lot of confidence for women. And no one has to tell you you look good in it, if they think you don't. So either be confident and wear what you want anyway regardless how people feel, or don't wear one until you feel comfortable in your own skin. Since you're already posting this picture up on the internet for everyone to see, you're either already confident in how you look half naked, or you're just a catfish/troll.
Although I will say, those are some Tig Ol' Bitties! 😍
Don't do 800 calories a day. WTF. Japanese ate more than that during WW2 famine. Americans thought we were starving us at 1400kcal/day. If you wanna lean down then do it at your pace. Whittle away at your worst habits little-by-little. You build a new life if you want to do this. Don't kill yourself.
Sarah ignore the idiots in the other opinions, these people think skinny is the norm when it clearly has bad sides to it, these types of people only care about looks, they are egoistical loser bullies that prey on people for being different. You look great! don't let anyone put you down. You shouldn't want to lose weight because someone tells you to... every single person that commented negatively should be ashamed of themselves.
Exactly, today’s society is whack, especially those egoistical narcissistic types on gag, have you seen some of the opinions on her post? These people are sick in the head, they think making fun of people or shaming others is the right thing to do. It’s disturbing…
@LaFerrari it's not cool to shame at all. Some people seriously don't have the genes to be skinny or struggle losing weight so there isn't a need to judge just better to be accepting of everyone's body type
Well you look just beautiful as the way you are but tbh you aren't healthy inside. This comes with health problems. Loose weight to be healthy not to look good for others.
First : you are beautiful Second : enjoy your life Third : you can get a boost by losing some weight for yourself and not for people , you live for yourself..
If you're interested in losing weight, I suggest you check out some recipes from Camp Fitness. They also have an online weight loss programme which is fairly easy to follow.
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So this was the first your boyfriend had seen it?
As far as the others go, if you're ok with how you are, then simply tell them that. And/or find new "friends" and boyfriend.
Some exercising. Look into Beachbody. They have some excellent workouts. For about $99 a year. They just have protein drinks and energy drinks to keep you moving.
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