How to help a parent who just got out of the hospital?

[Anonymous]

Long story short my mom came home from the hospital Thursday and ever since then I only been getting 2 or 3 hours of sleep cause I keep having to get up every time she loses her balance. My mom only weighs 5or 10 pounds lighter then me so lifting her when she falls to the floor or pulling out of a chair is a workout in itself since I'm not used to lifting that much. She sometimes is hard to understand cause her voice is very low and I don't always hear her. Sometimes she gets cranky and argumentative with me and I know that's not her but her frustration talking I'm trying to stay calm but sometimes it gets to be a bit much. Is there anyway to make this easier?

[dustybiker]

I went through this. It was really hard to get assistance through insurance. Best bet is to ask her doctor to sign her for Physical Therapy.

The therapist that comes not only helps a patient gain strength but can also recommend other necessities. Such as robotic assistance arms (forget the name) to help you get them up out of chairs and bed if you are along helping a parent alone.

And many others pieces of equipment if covered by their insurance. They can also recommend home help too.

You need someone in the medical field to tell the insurance what is needed, you can’t ask for it as a daughter. So I found the PT people were priceless.

You find out how strong you are going through what you are. I’ve been there. Hang in. And keep asking for help!!

[Asker]

Thanks @dustybiker

[dustybiker]

You are welcome.

[dustybiker]

Thanks for mho.

I hope your mother gets through this soon and back to an easier life for you both.
It’s so frustrating for them too. It causes them to want to lash out with comments and actions, silly behavior too. Just be ready for that.

[Asker]

@dustybiker your welcome. and Thanks again

[SexyRedd1966]

Have some compassion, she did it for you

[Asker]

That's why I'm trying to stay calm. It's just hard.

[SexyRedd1966]

Is there anyone to give you a break because I know it can be very hard

[Asker]

@sexyredd1966 kind of my neighbor has already told me to call if I needed anything but she also has a bad back so I don't asked her to lift anything heavy

[Anonymous]

Be as supportive as you possibly can.