What to do about an parent situation like this?

[bunnyboo364]

i asked this question because i know a lot of y'all are older and i needed advice on this situation. okay so backstory, i don’t live with my mom. she’s not a very good person. she screams at my baby sister, very aggressive with her, “accidentally” hit her a few times and had no remorse, she’s also choked me once for not wanting to go to party with her, and more. so me and her don’t have the best relationship but we’re still okay? anyway, she was visiting me and my grandma (because i live with my grandma). she said for me to hit her and so i grabbed the broom as a joke to pretend like. i was gonna do that. because we just around a lot and i accidentally tapped her nose with it. it wasn’t aggressive or anything and i even gasped because it was clearly an accident. she knew it was an accident but she hit me hard after. i thought that was gonna be it. but she continued repeatedly. she put me against the wall and choked me for a minute, then she kept punching my glasses when she knew it was already broken from previous days ago. then she got my baby sister to hit me repeatedly and my baby sister did it because she’s only one. but i told my mom stopped and she wouldn’t. then my grandma got mad at me and slammed the door on me. when she’s aware of my mom and how she is. i couldn’t stop crying because it got me thinking that if my mom knew it was an accident and still repeatedly hit me, that means she actually did want to hurt me. i just don’t know what to do about the situation because my uncle used to live with us. and he already has robles with my mom. i feel like i should tell him because he’s the only adult that would actually care about this stuff. my grandma gets irritated when stuff like this happens and not because she’s worried about me. just because she doesn’t like “loud noise” but i know if i tell my uncle, my mom will harass me. wether it’s spam calling/texting me, showing up at my house, or taking her anger out on my baby sister. what should i do?

[ohshee]

In life we experience beautiful things meaningful things. This was a moment that you need to remember for a long time there was a reason for that moment.. and who you choose to be in life . And also with your every breath your body language your tone of voice your attitude everything that you do in front of your little sister she's going to mimic
Your mom had a reason for asking you to do that and I would say it wasn't a very good reason she got out of it what she wanted to anyway but your little sister he's going to get the full force of it

I think you were just trying to be a part of the moment with your mom there's nothing wrong about that she knows for the fact that it was an accident
She is your mom and I would say there's a lot of things that you dislike about her that you can't help to love her because she is your love even though sometimes you don't want to but I don't think that's who you are I think you are seeing positive but anything that you don't like about your mom you can't engage doing the same thing even if she asked you to
Is she was ever to ask that again in your little sister's right there to shake your head no because you don't want to be teaching your little sister to be like your mom she's already doing that that's not cool

the only situation that I see is the you have been through a lot you have seen a lot and you don't want to do that person so make that choice don't be that person make a list of everything you dislike about her so you put it on paper and you know that you dislike her for that reason do the same thing with positive things
Maybe the best part about getting older is is one day you get to make that choice on who you want to be and who you don't want to do and the reasons why but you have to be honest with yourself
So you can do anything you want but if I was you and there were pieces of my mom that I didn't like well I would change that by allowing her to see me for as who I am if you do the right things they will run out on her maybe the sad part is is your sister will have already become your mom in a lot of different ways you have to let your mom believe whatever she wants to believe it doesn't even matter because she's going to do that anyway she wants to argue with you don't argue with her because that's what she wants anything that your mom wants from you you have to wait it out is it going to be a positive or negative if it's negative don't have anything to do with her

[Andres77]

Whoop whoop whoop!
Danger, danger!
She is unhinged!
If you have any bruises I'd suggest reporting it to the authorities.
But I don't know the kind of repercussions you'll have.
I'd ask the uncle for advice.
Maybe I'd report it and ask that nothing is done to your mom yet. Establish an official pattern of behavior with photos of bruises and broken glasses etc.
When you can get the hell out of there I would.
Then there's your baby sister.
Does she have the same dad?
Where is your dad and why can't he help?
Just thinking out loud, you don't have to answer.
Check your sister for bruises and take discreet pics that won't get you in trouble. If she's being abused too then you have to report it.
I'm sorry you're dealing with this.
It's not fair, it's not right.
There's no excuse.
I don't care how much stress or history of abuse one has, domestic abuse is wrong and so hurtful for years after.
I hope you can find some good help.

[Interstate]

You are 17 which makes you a minor, which in turn makes it CHILD ABUSE. I would talk to the Authorities or a Teacher at school. She needs help, and you and your Sister don't need to be traumatized later in life and repeat the pattern with your own children. At least if she gets help, it can turn into a healthier relationship. But you HAVE to talk to somebody who can report it to Child Services so she can be dealt with. And most likely your sister will be placed with your Grandma since she is the Paternal Grandmother.

[crmoore]

To preface, I'm very sorry that this is happening to you. I don't know what the right decision is. If you tell your uncle and that somehow gets back to your mom, I'd imagine she will likely get very mad in response and possibly hit you again. Do you think there's anything your uncle can do to help? There's always the option of telling the authorities, but sometimes that isn't helpful. Another option, which doesn't make me feel good to suggest, but possibly just try to avoid conflict for a year until you're 18 and then move out of the housr when you can.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I cannot say anything about your situation.
Seems like you need to get the authorities involved here. Your mom there is pretty harsh and the grandmother is pretty used to this violence.

What does ' robles' mean? You said that your uncle has robles with your mom.

[Waldoe]

robles = troubles

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

Then I think, your uncle or the authorities are the only options. Or just staying silent till your sister is big enough like 5 or 6 and then living alone.

The sister, I think is the main priority here.

[Kacey811980]

@bunnyboo364 I think you defiantly should inform the Police and make an assault or even a domestic violence complaint because she obviously did it once wanted to without shame or mercy and more likely than not it will happen again and gets worse every time believe me

[Confidentandchill]

I am so sorry. It sounds like you’re in an extremely violent household. I’m sure outside stressors elevate her behavior but still it shouldn’t happen. Feel free to message me if you’d like. Some of the best tactics you can have are to try and notice when she is going to be violent and then - avoid her during these times.

[Waldoe]

She has SERIOUS emotional problems... you can NOT fix her... I know that you just want a Mom that Loves and Cares about you... but she is not capable of that... I would avoid her, and it will be a lifelong battle... it sounds like she has a deep need to "lash out" at others... stay away from her, you cannot Fix her... Protect yourself, or you will become HER...

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Not much you can do about a parent that harasses you but call the po po on them

[Xtendable]

This needs to be reported. Is your mum’s behaviour getting worse as you’re getting older?