What does IT mean when a Man asks a woman:'What are you going to do with your poor fitness'?

[Insecure2]

By poor fitness' I mean the fact that you get tired very quickly and quite easily.

[razelove]

More than likely it is genuine concern. Too many people are far too sensitive and want to cry fatphobic and stuff if you point out that they are unhealthy, or should do something about something wrong with their health.

He cared enough to tell you about that even if he would catch flak for it. That's a nice guy. It wasn't in a mean way either. I've straight up asked people before if it's uncomfortable to be that fat? Are you hoping for ozempic to help? Because it doesn't help blood pressure and cholesterol, etc. etc.

He sounds like a nice guy who is just worried about you. You can give him hell about it if you want, but you yourself recognize that this is a problem for you.

[Insecure2]

To tell you the truth I just chose the picture at random online. My body is not perfect, but according to doctors I'm not fat. But IT is true that I get tired pretty quickly when I do any type of physical activity, which apparently shouldn't be so. However, if you say IT was out of kindness, I'm not going to give him hell for it. Thank you for your opinion 😊

[morganherrel]

He probably means exactly what he said. He is asking you to acknowledge a problem, and he's interested to know what you will do about it, if anything.

[Insecure2]

Thank you. 😊

[TheRealPepperPotts]

Well, he didn't have to be a jerk about it.

First, just ask for clarification. Get a clear picture of how he perceives you as having poor fitness. Ask him why it bothers him (genuinely). Then, evaluate whether or not what he said has merit, however poorly expressed or tactless.

For example, if someone hollers "You idiot, you've got an oil leak! Stop the car!", the first thing is to check and see if it's actually true. If it's true, then you have the information you need to deal with the problem. If it's not true, then you can deal with it differently by shrugging and moving on.

If going for a walk fatigues you, I'd agree that you probably need to work on some fitness goals. But if he's expecting you to mountain bike and run marathons, that shows some possible lifestyle incompatibility. If he wants someone to keep up with him, you may not be that person and that's OK. But if he is concerned that you don't have reasonable energy levels for your age, it's worth considering making some adjustments. Just some thoughts...

[DrPepper12]

It means what are you going to do about your poor fitness? Obviously he thinks that you are unhealthy in some capacity or fashion and out of concern or vanity He's asking you what you plan on doing.

[Insecure2]

What do you mean by vanity?

[DrPepper12]

He's concerned about appearances for who's at his side

[WindAtMyBack]

If your fitness has already come up in the past,
I think it's a straight forward question that should be taken literally.

If your fitness has not come up,
Then it might be both a statement and a literal question.

[Gwendoline]

That he's concerned you struggle to make it up a flight of stairs, that you sweat when you eat

[LiamJHayden]

Never been asked, but I would suppose it means you are out of shape.

[LiamJHayden]

Oops I read that backwards but the same concept. He thinks she's out of shape.

[Insecure2]

Haha😊 no worries.

[ProbablyClueless]

He's asking what you're going to do to improve your health, so that you stop getting tired so quickly.

[Account]

It means he is a judgmental piece of shit and you should respond him in the same manner regarding a flaw that he has.

[V_Injector]

I think he's asking about your poor fitness.

Maybe stop being and getting fatter.

[bowenw]

It probably means he is a jerk that is focused on superficial things.

[msc545]

It means the same as "Have more ice cream!"

[Reijen]

What a weird phrase. English isn't his first language eh?

[MrGSpotHer]

Do you have problems are you okay do you need a Dr?

[SeriouslyNotSerious]

Is he your personal trainer? 🤔

[Insecure2]

No, he is a friend.

[WhitneySnow]

He’s defo not into you

[slatyb]

It means he's an ass.

[Toxic_Skyler]

It means you are fat

[ABC1x1x]

It means you are fat and gross