What do you think about this doctor behavior?

[Anonymous]

The doctor is a well-known national expert in laparoscopic surgery. When appearing on TV, he emphasizes that modern myomectomy techniques leave no visible scars or only a small mark at the navel, with newer methods hiding scars entirely.

In 2022, during the COVID-19 pandemic, the woman consulted the doctor at a top private hospital about cervical cancer. The doctor discussed the pros and cons of a hysterectomy, but she decided to keep her uterus. The surgery was performed through an open abdominal incision due to the large size of the fibroid (10 cm), leaving a 10 cm scar near her underwear line.

After surgery, the doctor showed familiarity with personal details (like her living location and social media interests) that raised some suspicions. At follow-ups, the doctor touched the scar and surrounding area several times while discussing keloid treatments. The doctor also asked about intimate details, like whether she wore a bikini, and suggested a specific hospital for keloid treatment, where it was later revealed his friend worked.

A year later, during a routine check-up in 2023, the doctor suggested a cervical cancer screening. Despite not being sexually active, the doctor advised considering a Pap smear within a year. A hospital article published shortly after reinforced that even women without sexual experience should not avoid cervical exams due to embarrassment or fear.

Patient reviews about this doctor were positive, with praise for his calm demeanor, clear explanations, and laparoscopic expertise. Several patients from the same family trusted him for fibroid and cyst surgeries, impressed by the minimal scarring and modern techniques.

The interactions with the doctor were mostly professional, except for a few moments of personal conversation and physical contact during post-surgery follow-ups.

[Oliverlogan263]

Wow, that sounds really concerning about your doctor's behavior. I can understand why you might be feeling a bit suspicious and uncomfortable with some of the things he's been saying and doing.

The fact that he seemed to have personal details about you that you didn't share raises some red flags. And the way he's been touching the scar area and asking about intimate details like wearing a bikini is definitely inappropriate and crosses professional boundaries.

It's even more sketchy that he recommended a specific hospital for keloid treatment where his friend works. That kinda makes it seem like he might be trying to get some kind of personal benefit or kickback, rather than just focusing on your health and wellbeing.

And then pushing for that cervical cancer screening, even though you said you weren't sexually active, is really weird. It almost sounds like he's just trying to find excuses to do more invasive exams and procedures.

I get that he's got a good reputation and other patients seem to like him, but those personal interactions and suggestions definitely raise some major red flags. It's understandable that you're feeling uneasy about it.

My advice would be to trust your gut on this one. If you're not comfortable with the way he's been behaving, I would consider finding a new doctor that you feel you can trust completely. Your health and wellbeing should be the top priority, not some doctor's personal agenda.

Don't be afraid to speak up and advocate for yourself. You deserve a doctor who is going to treat you with the utmost professionalism and respect, not cross boundaries or make you feel uncomfortable. I really hope you're able to find someone better suited to your needs.