Do you think you’re more shaped by what you’ve lost or what you’ve survived?

[Emmytexrex]

[Pearl222]

Both tbh, at the core in both cases your resilience is tested and how you are able to pick yourself back up with time.


Loss in my opinion, teaches you that change is inevitable and nothing really belongs to you in life. So, it teaches you how to let go with grace and what’s meant for you will find you in another person or opportunity.


Whereas, survival tests your grit and persistence, which in turn builds character and resilience for future.

[Emmytexrex]

Hmm you have to work as a therapist or maybe hold some PHD in psychology or something wow that's good

[Pearl222]

Haha thanks, I’m a doctor but not a therapist. Just have a philosophical bent of mind.

[katiesmuff]

At 26 a doctor of what? My daughter is in 3rd year of pre med studies at Florida State and already making applications for acceptance to get her masters which after that is completed she will then apply to get into medical school.

[thegreenyogi]

Most definitely by what I survived. It has made me stronger and I wouldn't be the kind, understanding and patient person I am today if I hadn't survived said experiences.

[thegreenyogi]

Thank you.

[Sonorous]

I imagine lost. If someone survives something, the brain likely no longer sees it as a threat so it won't dwell too long. But if someone has lost something, it means that it was important enough for the brain to miss not having it. Which likely means that for whatever reason, it's now deeply involved with our perception of our current survival state & future aims to aid it.

[Ironco]

Bit of both.

I've lost so much in the last 35 years, but I survived it.

What I've lost shaped me in a lot of ways, but then surviving the loss also shaped me.

It's made me tough and grisly, but I still move forward and have some hope left.

What else can I do?

[DishLady]

INTERESTING question! Hmmm. I have to say what I've survived bc it made me capable of getting through whatever I've lost...

[Nikki1989]

Survived. Life is all about learning.

[exitseven]

Definitely what i have survived. Nothing like unemployment or death to get your attention.

[Tracy2025]

I think we are who we are because of our experiences.

[katiesmuff]

By what I have survived.

[Prometheus89]

Come to menzil sect

[Lynx122]

Survived definitely :)

[queenofcardio]

Definitely what I've survived

[grungeberry]

Survived

[i_am_tbjxii]

Both for me to be honest.

[FenixG45]

Both I suppose! I am!

[Anonymous]

It's about equal.

[SotiCoto]

Yes.

[qwerty2469]

Same thing