Do you feel like your life's challenges have shaped you or drained you?

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ProbablyClueless · Accepted Answer

Shaped! For sure. Unfortunately, one aspect of my childhood was that I learned from a very young age that I had to be self sufficient. This was an environment where reliance on my support system would be punished by destroying whatever resources I had built up. Imagine a fairly constant cycle of coming to someone for help and then being in a worse position as a result.

Ironically, this also turned out to be a huge benefit for me because childhoods like that force you to think in terms of solutions. You don't come to your support system with a problem; you explain the problem to them and then present a ready-made solution that you need them to greenlight.

Jay-_- · Accepted Answer

Why can't it be both.. It clearly can because I'm living it. Don't get it twisted I wouldn't have it any other way. Experience made me tough and I'm alert, I see CERTAIN people who are truly blind to life and I'm glad I am who I am.

sage2021 · Accepted Answer

They have definitely shaped me. I found that I am a pretty tough cookie and have survived some times and things in my life that would make most people want to just give up - but not me! I am a survivor and I guess a warrior as well.

Caroline91 · Accepted Answer

Sometimes, it's a temporary drain. But, in the long run, I would say shaped me.

Purpleronnie · Answer

I don’t this it’s the challenges per say , I think it’s how we deal with them based on the choices we either have or believe we have when those challenges re out in front of us.

Every major challenge has a ‘potential’ to cause ripples and a whole new set of decisions or choices as a result , so I believe it’s how we deal with these and the effects of the decisions or choices we then have and make.

Anonymous · Answer

Shaped, without a doubt. I'm always making plans. Life is always changing my plans. And then I'm always making new plans.

I've got an easy going nature about me. But I've also always had an endgame I've always wanted to reach so I've had a 35 year plan since i was 25, that I've adjusted each year to match my planned reality. It all culminates with me being a millionaire by the time I'm 60. I've met or surpassed every goal to date. The hard part is over. Now from this point on it's just compounding returns and time. I was flat broke in my mid 20's so most of this can be traced back to a Seminole event back at that age that sent me down this path

Maybe_Maybe_not · Answer

Without defining what drain is, I believe it's psychologically impossible to not be drained, and I believe it is inevitable to be shaped by life events, for everyone. So drawing a line between the two seems arbitrary to me, at least until drain is defined?

14gurlz2gagonit · Answer

I've felt both ways at different points in my life. I think more recently I'm learning to embrace all my failures as good things instead of super bad losses that burned me so bad. It's sort of making me feel like a positive person which is new to me.

Jltakk · Answer

I'd say drained. It's shaped me into a depressed and tired husk. To others I'm mature and laid back so it's helped my image. It's tempered my expectations to like 5% so when something or nothing happens, I don't tend to be disappointed or shocked anymore.

glennos89 · Answer

Mostly shaped me. I had a lot of hard times during my life. Some things that where out of my control but also some things that I fully had control over and made the wrong decisions in. I guess life is all about learning and growing but that made me stronger and wiser

Joshydavid25 · Answer

Mostly shaped, but some have definitely drained a brother.. I think it ultimately depends on your attitude towards them as to whether they shaped or drained you.. If you are actually learning and growing from those challenges, or holding onto them with resentment, regret and sadness.. So ultimately it's one of the few things that we can control in life..

Shiprex · Answer

Bit of both. The trials and tribulations gave me some sense of self awareness and resilience and that has been a core value I have taken into other aspects of life.

Sunrising · Answer

At times I feel drained, and I take time out to recharge myself, and then I'm raring to go and meet new challenges.

Crimsyjo · Answer

Shaped definitely. Whether good or bad? Well... that's subjective to decide.

exitseven · Answer

Nietzsche wrote that "What does not kill us will make us stronger" I believe that/

AydenHazor · Answer

A little of both. I wouldn't be the person I am without them, but at the same time there's days when I have no motivation for existence

Professor-college · Answer

Last year was horrible but now I'm learning how to take advantage of the job i wished for years that i finally have.

Likes2drive · Answer

They definitely drained me and probably why I lost a lot of hair on top, but I definitely learned from it

Anastasia86 · Answer

I say both some shape you the toxic one are leaches so they drain you.

TracyWants · Answer

Yes lol all the time but fight back and drain life! I don't know

IslaTheWitch · Answer

they shape me every day... :D

Anonymous · Answer

I'd say it's both, depends on the challenge.

jimmy2 · Answer

Life changes can go either way it really by choice or choices

igdsh3 · Answer

Yes. Having a special needs child has destroyed my life and happiness. Shitty strangers/people with issues has made me cold and hateful towards people.

Anonymous · Answer

drained me harder than a botox-lipped hooker draining my cock

Godihateyou · Answer

Challenges? Thats bitch talk. They were little snacks you ate along the day

Miah06 · Answer

A little bit of both

Valdemort · Answer

Yes.

Babebytheshore85 · Answer

Shaped I've learned a lot

thegreenyogi · Answer

Most definitely shaped me.

Agape93 · Answer

Both.

Circushowcowboy · Answer

Mixture of the two

clampfan101 · Answer

Very much both.

fish5505_87 · Answer

Both, hopefully, more shaped and motivated!

ewok737 · Answer

Shaped me, ambush predator.

WhitneySnow · Answer

Shaped me. Haven’t been drained yet.

yotaman99 · Answer

Shaped me definitely and drained

SteveSmith1985 · Answer

Shaped and drained.

Dongie · Answer

Inserted a large rod up my spiritual ass.

alice55 · Answer

shaped me

Finchie40 · Answer

Both for sure

Panthero · Answer

A bit of each.

Babygirl_S · Answer

Drained the nice right out of me

DJB72 · Answer

Yes, absolutely.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Both.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Both

Sounding · Answer

Shaped

Anonymous · Answer

I feel drained

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