Guys, is it a red flag of she had an STD in the past?

[Anonymous]

For relationships or hookups. Current tests all clean

[sawno]

To me it is a red flag. But if she's fully clean its not an immediate dealbreaker but ill pay close attention if she is careless.

[jahaims]

I wouldn't be with someone who has such little self respect that they have casual sex

[slatyb]

No, it's not. Shut happens.

[In_Trance]

Fuck ya

[Asker]

Why? Does it matter if she's clean?

[In_Trance]

It's pretty solid indicator of poor life choices. The past matters on more subjects than just body count

[Asker]

Someone could have had only one partner and gotten something from him cheating. You don't know. Sometimes it's just bad luck and not bad life decisions. If that's your criteria then the HOW should be what matters and not IF.

Don't get me wrong, often it is stupid decisions and I'm not gonna deny that it's the case for me too, but drawing an automatic red line when you don't know any details feels odd to me

[In_Trance]

It feels odd to you because it's someone else's potential opinion of you. But you do the very same thing on your own criteria when you're evaluating a potential partner.
Everyone has their non-negotiables including you

[Asker]

No I'm saying it feels odd because what you're saying is kinda contradicting... On one side say you care about life decisions while on the other you don't seem to care how it happened. I would get that if the person got something lifelong lasting but not if they're clean. It's not really affecting me because like I said I'm clean and no one forces me to disclose my past. It's something I rarely bring up.

I'm curious about people's opinions and try to understand them. I had a hoe phase and I have no problem if someone doesn't want me because of that. Like you said everyone has their criteria and there are enough people out there for everyone...