Did my girlfriend cheat on me she has genital herpes now?

[Zezzara]

Please help me serious and I am going through a lot. I will make this as organized as possible.

My girlfriend has genital herpes now. Located below her vagina. She started to feel ill last Monday (7/27) and got the cyst on Wednesday (7/29).

Last time I had sex with her was (7/25) and (7/23).

She got tested (7/30) and got her results via pcr swab test ((most accurate test)8/01)
She has only been with 2 partners sexually the first being a jailbird who managed to take her virginity last year in march (only had sex once) and me (more times than I can count). She also received oral sex from an ex boy friend 3 years ago for the first time but never received oral sex ever again until she met me.
She got tested in may of 2019 and cameback negative. I got tested 6 times in a year because I have a fragile immune system and my ex girlfriend cheated on me. Those results also came negative. I got a skin lession on my face and I went to get it tested 2 days ago because I'm in denial of cheating and the doctor said it's 1 million percent not herpes laughed at me and refused to test me. She told me that my girlfriend got it in a hard to reach spot orally. My girlfriend said she never had herpes before and I never had herpes. They say herpes have an incubation period 2-12 days for it's first outbreak.
I love my girlfriend to death and I am in slight denial because I have so much faith in her. I'm only questioning if she did because there is hard proof she might have. She told me that she has only been with only two guys with a full on sexual relationship and all that but I am so confused now. Please help me. If I don't have hepes who did she get it from and how.

[Anonymous]

Did you both get tested before you started having sex? She could have already had it.. otherwise, if this was my situation, I’d assume he cheated on me too.

[Zezzara]

We both were tested I got tested 3 times in a course of a year and another time today for all stds. In the past I came back clean and negative. She says that she was all clean too. So what do you think happened? :(

[Opinion Owner]

I already answered that. Sorry, buddy.

[Anonymous]

What test is this? My doctor and I discussed that the only available std test for HSV 2 is unreliable and doesn’t always show up positive.. I’m in Canada, maybe other parts of the world are different. The only way to get tested 100% is to get an active blister swabbed. 1 in 6 people have hsv 2 and a lot more don’t have symptoms or will have symptoms later on. You can also get symptoms 3 years after contacting... Are you still together or did you leave?

[Zezzara]

Update: We are still together. I went through an IGG antibody blood test it was to see if I was exposed to an outbreak in the recent time period. With more research on my records in march my test was deemed negative for HSV-2 but positive for HSV-1 via IGG test. Now I am positive with HSV-1 and HSV-2 via IGG test. I have only been with her for the past 8 months and had sex with my last partner last November. I have only had two partners in my life. I asked my specialist when I contracted HSV-2 and she said within the time period of March until Late July as I was negative as of early march. Now here is the real confusing note. My girlfriend is positive for HSV-1 but negative for HSV-2, they swabbed one of her skin lesions and gave her an IGG test. Now I am very confused because I have only been with her for the past 8 months and I got it within the time period of March-late July. Why am I the only one with HSV-2? Plus she has genital HSV-1 and I never had genital HSV-1. She has been my only partner this year. Something is not adding up and all three of my doctors agree :(. SO I ask you could I have gotten it from my ex fiance or did I get it from her? And if she did does that mean she cheated? She keeps telling me that there is nothing that we can do but it bothers me because I need answers. I will re-ask this question soon with updated information.

[Opinion Owner]

Hmm, strange yes. In a unlikely event you could have picked it up by yourself (grab and scratch with contaminated hands).

HSV2 from Ex could of showed up late.. Blood tests take 3-6 months to turn positive after exposure because it takes 3-6 months for your body to make IgG antibodies in response to an infection. Maybe longer or shorter, every body is different.

Are you 100% positive that your current partner got tested negative for HSV2 they could of been to embarrassed or were unaware to tell you.. If you are 100% sure it’s negative, There’s not really a way to tell if they cheated or not.. but most likely not as the HSV2 test would of been positive before yours if your current partner cheated (or around same time)

[Zezzara]

It gets worse! I asked my current girlfriend if she wouldn't get hurt if I contacted my ex girlfriend a week ago so I can settle this once and for all about if she had it or not. I asked her if she can get tested. Today she gave me her results and it was negative for both!!! I was so devastated and told my current girlfriend in a calm manor over the phone and she says "I might have given it to you then, but I don't know how you got it or I got it." I really don't know what to believe :(.

I appreciate the reply's! To your response the last time I had sex with my ex girlfriend was early November 2019 so it was al little more than 6 months. I have seen her test results over the phone via pictures of what she took. So I can kinda validate but then again they didn't swab the whole vagina they only swabbed one blister. I can't 100% be sure if she has it or not. In the past six months (since the outbreak) the only people I have been in skin to skin contact with was my mother, best friends (Jeff and Chris), my father, brother but thats from what I recall. It could also be that I accidentally brushed on someone in public but thats unlikely :(

I am very unsure if she cheated or not but she does buy me random things now. I have faith but its being challenged. It diminishes with each discovery and it went from full faith of confidence of knowing she's not like that to now me being on my toes and watching everything. I am very confused :(.

[OlderAndWiser]

Ask her if you can go to her doctor with her and hear an explanation for how she contracted this disease. Her response to that request may be quite educational.

[steveusna]

If you ever want to see a woman lose her shit, tell her that you won't have sex with her the first time unless she agrees to mutual std testing. I have done this and had women scream at me. It is the perfect lie detector. I know immediately they have herpes.

[EyesOfGod]

Dump that slut in a trash can bud.

[Iamsuperhotman]

Cut that fuck trash out of your life.

[Pliskin55]

lmao 😂