I am a reserved guy who's humble and well meaning. I've never thought of myself especially highly, and I always noticed I was a bit different. Over the past three years I started to get a lot of attention in public; women lingering with me, flirting in public, inviting to join their circles at the gym, asking me for directions, getting a bit flustered when taking my food orders sometimes, passing me smiley faces on vouchers or writing notes on my coffee lid... being the person I am, (A) I was initially oblivious, and (B) I had absolutely no idea what I was meant to do.
To use an American term, I am a "Wallflower"; someone who is present and tries to join in but struggles due to hesitation. Now here's where it gets interesting; the frequency and quality of the women that are drawn to me is particularly high, high enough for people to question it when they haven't seen what I look like. Now, I never thought of myself as anything particularly special; sure I had a few genetic quirks, but doesn't everyone...
Well... that's the thing: My body might be more masculine and athletic in appearance than it should be when compared to my personality and lack of training for two years. If you want specific stats, here you are:
- Height: 181.6 cm (5'11.5")
- Weight: 60 kg (lean, low body fat)
- Horizontal hip width: 31.8 cm
- Thigh circumference (each): 48 cm (standing, firm raw muscle)
- Calf circumference: 34.5 cm (standing, very firm raw muscle)
- Chest width: ~31.1 cm (narrow relative to hips)
- Glute protrusion: ~20% of side profile (untrained raw muscle, firm)
- Leg gap: ~4.54 cm (minimal gap despite thigh thickness)
- Shoe size: UK11 Men
- Palm width: ~9 cm
- Palm height: ~11 cm
- Middle Finger Length: ~6 cm
- Hair colour: Natural golden blonde (never dyed, never styled, only conditioner)
- Hair style: Basic side part with comb as it dries after washing hair
- Moustache colour: [Same as above]
- Middle Finger Length: ~9 cm
- Total hand height: ~20 cm (I held 4 tennis balls in each hand last Sunday, bit fiddly tho)
- Waist Circumference: ~ 73 cm
If you've picked up on my height, hand, and foot size you might guess where that leads... Yes; and no, it being that way does not increase confidence - at least not for me. I hear it can lead to complications.
If women are as intuitive as it is said, the women that approach me might guess correctly.
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What Girls Said
Same way I'd feel about shy guys with non-fit bodies, indifferent. It's about personality with me, a sense of humor and very possibly having green eyes as a bonus. A shy guy is basically not going to be able to hold much of a conversation, at least in the beginning, and I won't feel much of a spark.
I don’t know about shyness. I’m the complete opposite, I'm social and always talking.
Perhaps, but my specific quandary is that I am shy and they are expecting me to bridge the gap. I played tennis last Sunday (hence the 4 tennis balls in each hand) and that was the first time I've tried to socialise with an interested woman; it worked, she took off all her accessories and let her hair free, but I still wasn't forward enough to ask for her number, progress past a single conversation about exercise that ended with me calling her results impressive. We played a few more games, with her remaining my partner/opponent, and she lingered until I was leaving too despite telling others she wished to leave earlier.
That was still an achievement for me. I don't approach out of respect and being taught not to; I was traumatised to never approach women in primary school, and lived through the MeToo movement at University (causing me to avoid all contact with my dorm mates, and take the vitriol towards men to heart despite never performing the behaviours campaigned against).
The same as any other man. Having a masculine body adds nothing to the quality of the man.