How do you protect your mental health at a toxic job you can’t leave for the insurance?

[Anonymous]

I’m getting tired of being yelled at and disrespected by other coworkers and the supervisors. I had told the assistant supervisor what happened. Later that day I met him back where at the same area I was at. He asked me to meet up with let’s say Jack to pick something up. He then says “You get along with Jack, right?” I said yea. He knows I get along with him. I felt it was a dig saying I don’t get along with anyone. The none stop calls constantly to do additional work like I’m the only one employee in. I would quit but I really need my health insurance. I like what I do but it’s the people.

[Massageman]

As long as you are working for others, do the minimal needed to get by and look okay. All those extra things you do are rewarded only with a LONGER list of things to do. Efficiency is "rewarded" with a longer list of other people's crap someone wants you to do!

[Asker]

I’ve started to realize that. I’ve been called to help other coworkers when they are behind because they’ve been slacking off. I used to stop and ask others if they needed help. No one did that to me so I stopped. I don’t care if they see me drive by while they’re working.

[Massageman]

I lived NEARLY 20 corporate years being shuttled from office to office to fix the junk left by others. So, yes, I have acquired a wide talent skill and knowledge base, but my "reward" was getting stuck in a department that was eliminated about 5 months before my pension would have been 4x what it was when I was forced out along with dozens of others. (They had passed the critical 20 year mark, though). But, I was able to take that knowledge and skill base and turn it into several other directions to keep myself and family afloat. As a "retiree" of that corporate position, I DO get to keep my med benefits, even though the price is slowly creeping upward.

[DishLady]

So depending on the industry the above is a given. It's important to suss out what's normal across the board in your industry, which may be high-stress, rude, niche "clubhouse" community (like in finance, tech, fashion, etc.). Other industries (eg, education, diplomatic relations, etc.) that sort of thing is just not tolerated.

[TsundereMatrix]

Every job I had was toxic. I would start looking for another job. In the meantime record conversations with those toxic people and take screenshots of any written communication and hand it to HR. I think every job will have toxic people in some way which is unfortunate.

[Asker]

I’ve gone to hr and nothing happened.

[In_Trance]

I would think the right answer is to get a different job with similar or better insurance and get the hell out of there.
But I was wrong
Apparently the answer is to post anonymously on a chat app about it and do nothing that will give you actual results

[Alex-Snow]

Make time for yourself. Get outside as much as possible and try to get some exercise. Also it is always good to keep an eye out for another job. You never know what might pop up.

[slatyb]

Where are you working? What are you doing? How much are you paid?

[jahaims]

By not caring about the job and living life outside of work hours

[Agape93]

More of this nonsense?

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Agape93]

You were bitching about this kind of shit the other day

[Anonymous]

Wear a wire and catch it all on tape

[Asker]

And who do I show it to when I have it on tape?

[Asker]

I have a voice recorder that I can stick in my pocket. You can hear nice and clearly with it. I used it once at my doctor’s appointment.

[Opinion Owner]

Your supervisors who are clueless about how the other employees interact with you. Asking Jack in front of both of you obviously isn’t t ever going to get an honest answer.

[Asker]

Jack wasn’t there. I was just myself and the assistant supervisor alone. The supervisor was off this week. This isn’t the first time one of the coworkers had yelled at me. He went off on me months ago. I let the supervisor know after it happened.