Guys: Does it matter if your girlfriend gained 5-15 lbs more than when you first started dating?

[CatsMeow9]

I'm only asking because I see so many females freaking out over a little weight gain (myself not included). If yes, why and would you tell her that you've noticed it?

[Gone_But_Not_Lost]

It does matter to some people. Guys and girls. I know a few guys and girls on my friends list on this site who will outright say that if their significant other gains weight, it can turn them right off, or even be a total deal breaker. Though, honestly, I don't think most of those people have been in serious relationships. I think if they actually cared about that person, they probably wouldn't be so quick to judge over something so incredibly petty and shallow. (Yes, I said it.) I am not one of those people. Furthermore, I know quite a few people who don't care about this stuff. It's as I said, I think if this person really mattered, if you really care about the one you're with, a little weight fluctuation shouldn't matter. I for one have been dating my girl for several years. She's gained about three dress sizes since I dated her, and went back down by two. Did it bother me? No. Did it make me feel anything less for her? No. Did it make me less attracted? No.

But about bringing it up, I'll say this... I generally don't point it out until it's obvious and only if I think there's a real concern. If she brings it up herself, I'd likely say "Yeah, I did kinda notice" but not with any judgement. Frankly I love her, and I love her body. But really, unless she starts getting horrifyingly obese, or unless she brings it up all on her own, why should I bring it up? Why should I make her feel bad? Women are sensitive enough about their weight, and it's likely she already knows, so bringing it up will only make her feel worse than she needs to feel. I think the guys who bring this up either don't care, or were not thinking about how she'd feel. At least some of those guys anyway.

[TurbulentDan12]

No I don't think it would change how I felt about her. But in my case she's trying hard to lose weight now (and was before she met me) so I'd be concerned. I want her to be happy but being healthy also contributes to being happy. If you're trying to lose weight and you end up gaining weight something is probably wrong.

Though, I probably wouldn't notice it and I wouldn't bring it up to her if I did of course.

[honeyltsme]

5 lbs I would tell her that I've noticed

Actually I'll point out if she's overeating or eating late or eating crap, before she's even gained that much.

Further weight gain well into double digits, since I am clearly such a super-unhealthy influence on her, would prompt me to leave. Unless there's a SEVERE medical condition directly linked to causing this ("I don't respect my metabolic rate has slowed since I was a teen and I lack self-discipline" is not a medical condition!)

[islands7]

Gaining weight IS a concern to those who love you.

Pregnancy

Depression

Health

Feeling of lack

Hedonistic

Stress

Telling would be OK in the best of relationships that would carry more positive reactions than negative. Most DO gain weight, cut their hair, quit their job, get pregnant ... then get the better job, run the house, save the cash, slim back down = awesome.

[Anonymous]

it wouldn't be a turn off but I would be concerned if she gained 15 pounds. My weight fluctuates between 150-165 between summer and winter so it can be the same thing with her. But I would talk to her if she is eating too much junk food to gain that weight.

[hotxos]

My girlfriends and I tend to put on 100 lbs,we love stuffing ourselves

[Happygoluckyboy]

Not in the slightest.