Does that bother you? Ladies, how’d you feel if your man tells you you gained some weight honey.
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I'd care if it could affect her health... otherwise it won't change my love for her and her body10
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If she gains a bit of weight that's not an issue at all. I wouldn't say anything because I wouldn't have a problem with it.
If, however, she gained a whole lot of weight (and there was no legitimate reason for it... no medical conditions or anything like that) then I would definitely care. I wouldn't say anything about it, because I would assume she was well aware of her weight gain. If it's the best she can do "for her"... then I may care, but I'm not trying to tell anyone to lose weight for me. If she lets herself go like that and doesn't care, then I guess it is what it is.10
I would not tell her and expect her to have enough common sense to know it would matter. It would piss me off that she put me in a situation where I had to bring it up. I don't need to be set up.20
I try to stay away from weight discussions. My SO is on a diet, and I keep telling her she doesn't need to be. 5'9' and 128 pounds is just fine, she's shooting for 115 pounds.10
Yes I do.
And I already tell her when it happens so she can tackle the problem when it is easily tackled. This is much better than being politically correct. And she even prefers it this way. Because she knows that I got her back when she needs help, but she will have to work for it. She knows I take pride in my physical health and endurance and she has to keep up. I don't date people who slack off because I don't slack off.
Honest communication is one of the key reasons why we're in a happy relationship for years.
Men who claim they don't care are lying to their teeth. They are just too scared to sound politically incorrect or are too scared to potentially offend their partner. That's a dishonest coward's way of handling things.14
Some weight gain is bound to happen at various times throughout life. But if we're living a healthy lifestyle and making good choices, then we can proactively combat that.
(This is not gender-specific, by the way. It applies to both men and women.)
But no, I don't expect my wife's weight to be the exact same number every single time she weighs herself. That would be absurd. And if she happens to gain 5 or 10 pounds, I'm not going to be upset or love her any less. We all just need to gently encourage one another to stay on our game and stay healthy. It's a team effort. And positivity goes a long way!22
It wouldn't bother me if he told me about it but if he is gonna buy takeout still and eat it in front of me when I am trying to lose weight then fuck him.. I will keep eating unhealthy too. Like I care if I die of heart attack.. that is most likely what I'm gonna die of anyways since both my grandfather and my dad both have high blood pressure and same as my mother.. I could change it but I honestly don't love myself that much to care, that boat sailed away many years ago 😅30
I do care and I would say something.
I'm of the mindset that everyone has an obligation, within reasonable limits, to maintain their physical appearances so as to remain attractive to the person they're with... it's not okay to be complacent and let yourself go because you think you're secure in your relationship.
Must be why I always end up single.10
Instead of focusing on her weight gain, i would plan dates that involve hiking, skating, walking, playing sports or trying new physical activities. Guys Don't tell your girlfriend that you're not attracted to her because she's getting fat, or that you think she should lose weight. Instead, focus on health and wellness as a couple10
How much weight we talking here? The last woman I was attracted to was 5'11" 225lbs. She wore it extremely well. I think this goes for man or woman. You're going to put on a few lbs. As you age it's kind of inevitable. But as long as you're healthy. Get regular exercise etc. It isn't a problem. I mean if I go to hug her and I can't get my arms around her... that's a problem. I would hope she'd care about me enough to feel the same way.25
Yes, I care if my girl gains some weight, but not for the reason you might think.
Weight gain can happen for various reasons, for example, hormones, weather, stress, illness or injury. My first priority would be to determine the cause and the effect on my ladies health.
Knowledge is Power. With that, decisions can be made to correct the problem!32
I'd try to focus upon planned dates involving vigor on both sides. I'm no Greek god. Closest one to me, is Hephaestus , but he's jacked. I can stand to lose weight as well. The only thing telling her that she's gained weight is she's going to lose 184 lbs, aka me.10
I'd prefer it. I was large when I met my late fiance but at some point I started bordering obesity and I'm forever grateful for his concerned and assistance on starting to improve my health. I just wish he was around to see the end results.20
Gaining weight is a problem for most. If this were to happen to my partner I would simply encourage her to juice/eat healthier and some type of aerobics walking/jogging/biking etc and join her in the moment. The key is positive reinforcement otherwise it creates hostility. Best of luck!10
Nope, my wife has gone through weight gain and loss many times in the 16 years we’ve been together and I find her sexy no matter what the weight. Also, no I wouldn’t tell her if she’s gained weight because that would hurt her feelings and the comment serves no positive purpose, but I will tell her if she loses weight because I know that will make her feel good.10
I’d go to the gym, lol. I like being fit and healthy.
If I’ve been having way too many cheat days then I’d cut that shit real quick.
I wouldn’t be offended and I’d be thankful.10
Usually I think the girl knows first when she struggles to get into jeans that used to fit.
I think the question is do you tell her to go on a diet or do it under the covers by suggesting healthier eating.10
I'd tell her I'm a little concerned, but I'd tiptoe on that. I get much more rattled if I catch her being grossly immature, gaslighting, and disingenuous.10
I'd tell her. I'd like it if she exercises with me sometimes too. I think it is easier to stay consistent with exercise when you have a partner to do it with.10
I just put another log on the fire.https://www.youtube.com/embed/BWpYQjuJ0u020
I don't care if she gains some weight as I know it may go up and down from time to time. I would only care if I notice it's getting into obese level and I would bring it up then.10
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Wouldn't bother me at all. It would still be her. One girlfriend I had did apparently. She kept weighing herself and told me she gained weight. I really didn't notice. I just saw her.